(Closed) Honoring Lost Loved ones at Ceremony

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

You could always do a dove release lol 🙂 Also, lots of people place photos in the wedding program, or in a special place to honor the people that have passed on. That butterfly release was a really sweet gesture. How did they get the butterflies for it??

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m always a fan of memorial candles. I think it’s very special when brides or parents make a special event out of lighting the candle in memory of a passed relative. You can have the candle labelled if you want, you can list the lighting in the program, you can decorate the candle holder or stand specially for the person. Maybe with a picture of her. And that way her burning candle will be standing up there with you when you get married. 

We just did a moment of silence at our ceremony.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We had our officiant read a poem honoring those who had passed. It was not religious in any way.

Post # 6
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@FutureMrs.Mathy:  I asked my mother for one of my father’s ties. I am having a garter made for my daughter to wear.  She is not going to do the traditonal toss, so she will have it for years to come.  Is there something of your sisters that you could alter?  We are also donating to the American Cancer Society instead of spending the money on wedding favors as she has lost both of her grandfathers to cancer.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

We’re having a moment of silence, as well as a photo display (with the appropriate flowers for each party) on the same table as the guestbook. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My husband lost his father almost three years ago, and we definitely wanted to honor him during our wedding, as well as the other close family members that we have lost.  

We had our officiant just say at this time we remember B’s father D and M’s maternal grandparents etc etc.  I have heard from my guests that it was perfect, and didn’t bring down the celebatory mood of the day.

We also did a memory table with wedding pictures of our parents and grandparents, and also my aunt and uncles who died, and then another picture of my husband’s father, along with a container of custom golf tees (his dad was an avid golfer-part of the reason we got married at a country club with a golf course!).  There was a sign telling our guests to take some golf tees in honor of B’s dad. 

We also did a couple of more subtle things to honor him- during cocktail hour we played a Jimmy Buffett song (his dad was a parrothead), and the arrangement on the memory table incorporated orchids as a nod to his dad’s love of visiting islands.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

What I am doing is getting a couple vases because my mom and dad have both passed away and I am going to have those up for the ceremony. You can get on the glass “in loving memory of” etched on it.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Off topic-

@Ambellina13:  Coheed and Cambria is my favorite band!!!!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@beautymyth:  YAY!  i love them too!  I was so excited that they were releasing the new cd 2 days after our wedding.  it felt like a wedding present for us!  I totally had a keywork on my wedding bouquet, put Faint of Heart and Prize Fighter on our cocktail hour list, came out to Welcome Home and had our first dance to Wake Up.  We also almost booked Claudio’s photographer and wedding venue since we live in the area where he got married…  I thought that would be taking it a lil too far!

 

Sorry for the thread jack!!

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

How about a chair? A reserved seat where she would sit filled with pictures of her as a kid, a teenager and older. It’s not a ceremony thing really, but it shows that THAT spot is for her only and no one can replace it.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We had a special chair up by the alter. It had a bouquet of flowers. The celebrant annoucned that the chair was reserved and represented those that could not be there. Then he read the names of those who had passed and were not able to attend. 

It choked people up a bit. 

As a bride, if you have people who have passed and you want to avoid getting too emotional (some brides don’t mind letting it all out and that’s fine 🙂 ) I think it’s worth spending some time prior to the wedding visualising any emotional parts of the day where their might be mentions of those people. Let your emotions bubble up and let them out beforehand. It helped me. 

xx

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Ambellina13:  Oh that is awesome 😀 I would have loved that too. Sounds to me like it was a wedding present lol 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m getting a vase of my mum’s favourite flowers. It’s a subtle way of having her there without making a big deal. People that knew her will recognise it’s meaning the others will probably just think it’s a random bunch of flowers. Might put up a photo of her too. Don’t want to make a big deal about it only because if I do I’ll ball my eyes out that she’s not there! Although I’m sure someone will say something in a speech even though we said no speeches!

Is there something your sister loved?

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We are having a chair my grandpa passed away so nest to my grandma we are having a picture of him with a rose on the chair.

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