Post # 1
My mother’s side of the family is very small, all thats left that we know is her brother and his wife and child. Both of her parents are dead as well as grandparents. Since my mother’s father died long before I was born and my maternal grandmother died when I was 8, I wanted to include my Uncle and Aunt in the wedding to represent the MOB’s family side of me.
The part where I am getting stressed/confused is the wedding program, the processional, and the announcement at the reception time. I wanted to see if anyone has done this and how did they handle it knowing that they have paternal aunts and uncles and the groom’s aunts and uncles who would not be included during the wedding. Should I add something explaining why they are standing in for the MOB family? Such as:
In Honor of MOB Father and MOB Mother
Maternal Uncle and Aunt of the Bride
I may be looking too into it, but I wanted to do something to honor them.
Also, should I do the same for the groom, who all grandparents have passed?
Post # 3
You could include a list in the program but you risk leaving someone out when you start to list a whole host of people. You should do the same for the groomif you are going the list route.
You could just have a short sentance honoring all the people that are not with us, or light one candle. But listing out Aunt Jack, and Cousin Betty might be too much.
Post # 4
I think you may be inviting a lot of drama by honoring family members on your side and not your FI’s. I’d put a sentence or two on the program honoring family members that are no longer with us and leave it at that
Post # 5
You mention all of his grandparents are passed…so how is his situation any different from yours? Just because he has more aunts and uncles? You’re going to create a lot of hurt feelings honoring one set of aunt and uncle and ignoring the rest – putting in a blurb about how they are there in place of your grandparents means nothing when his has passed as well, it will just create drama. I’d say that if you would like to you can do something in memory of both of your grandparents, whether it’s a candle lighting, line in the program, etc. But leave your aunt and uncle out of it.