Post # 1
My mother will have been deceased almost 15 years by the time I get married.
My venue is outdoors and the seating in the area is really awkward, so my family will be sitting in a group on the right right side of where I will be standing at the “altar”. I would carry the rose myself but it would be awkward for me to walk past my FH to place a flower in an empty seat for my mother and then walk all the way back to him, so I was thinking I would have my stepmother carry the single rose for my mother with a picture charm attached during the “seating of the mothers” and hold the rose during the ceremony. I just want some feedback if you guys think this is inconsiderate or rude of me to ask of my stepmother.
My mother did know my stepmother…my stepmother was my mothers hospice nurse, if this makes a difference
Post # 3
What are your thoughts and the thoughts of your guests on the way the your father and stepmother got together?
Post # 4
It used to bother me when I was younger and it bothered some of my fathers relatives, some more than others. They weren’t a fan of my mother wither though as she was a difficult woman and hard headed.
I’ve moved past the fact that my dad married my moms nurse and my stepmother is a very nice woman. I’ve never wanter her to be a mother figure to me and she’s never wanted nor tried to be one to me. I love my stepmother, but not as a mother. It takes a special kind of person to do what she does. I thought about my question last night and based on the type of person she is, I think she would be honored to carry a symbol for my mother without feeling like she was being put aside.