Post # 1
I wanted to see what you all thought. My maternal grandmother passed away last month and I’ve been thinking of ways to honor her. I was very close with her and she passed 3 days before my original wedding date. She always would tell me she couldn’t wait to see me in my wedding dress and brought my wedding up the last day I saw her on Mother’s Day. I wanted to place a photo of her, a sign that says “If love could have saved you, you would have lived forever” or “If the tears we’ve shed could have saved you, you would have lived forever.” and perhaps a memorial candle. My FI and I have other members in our family that have passed (his grandparents, aunts, my paternal grandparents, aunts, cousins, etc.) and was thinking of framing their names explaining they are no longer with us.
The only thing is I don’t want it took look like the other family members are not as important. I was very close to my grandmother and the other members in my family either passed before I was born or were long distanced since all my father’s family lives in Texas. My FI’s family members are the same, none he has been closed to but I still want to do something special for my grandmother.
How would it look to you? I also don’t want it to be a complete memorial (I read that is not good to do at a wedding) and don’t know if the sign saying If love could have saved you is too much?
I was also thinking of placing a vase with flowers instead of a memorial candle and taking the flowers to her grave. I have too many ideas in my head and just need some outside opinions.
Post # 3
@LD333: I think it’s a sweet idea! But where exactly are you going to put this table?
Personally, I’m having a vow renewal (military wife, and I had a courthouse wedding this month) so I’m not doing a bouqet toss or anything. So, I was going to have a table in the corner of the reception room with candles, pictures and a vase where I will place my flowers… also going to put a little note explaining this in the program.
If the sign isn’t too big, it wouldn’t be much of a “mood-killer” as some say. And I’m kind of picturing it with a picture of your grandmother in the center, framed names surrounding it, and flowers or a candle in the front. Is that what you had in mind?
Post # 4
My grandmaw passed away this March on my birthday. I was actually coming home to see her in just a few weeks as well. She was very excited about my beach wedding and even with her dementia she still remembered I was getting married and asked me about it everytime we spoke on the phone. She was my last living grandparent and part of why I picked our wedding location was so she would have been able to go. I was close to her as well, she was the reason I became a nurse(she was a nurse for 40 years).
I’m honoring her and my paw paw(who passed just 2 years before her, almost to the day as her) by putting up a very nice framed picture of them I found on them on their wedding day on one of the tables at our casual reception. Not sure where yet, maybe just at the picnic table me and my FI will be sitting at. I’m also honoring her by wrapping one of her rosaries around the base of my bouquet.
I think what you have in mind is a lovely way to remember those loved ones that will not be there with you on your special day(but will most def be there in spirit).
This is the picture I’m putting up of them, I just love this photo and the joy on their faces…
Post # 5
@Dimples723: I’m planning on having the table during the reception. I’m not planning to have the sign be large at all. Exactly how you explained it, is what I was wanting to do. Thanks for the support!
@nursemel: That’s such a lovely picture! I had the rosary idea as well since my grandmother was very religious. I have so many ideas!
Post # 6
I completely understand where you are coming from. My grandfather passed a few years ago along with FI’s grandmother. While we do have other relatives who have passed these 2 were extra special to us. I am putting a photo charm of each in my boquet. My florist is also putting two carnations in the back of my all rose boquet to represent them but only for me to see. Then we are framing a poem and putting a vase with roses to represent every special person who is not with us. That way my grandfather and his grandmother are represented without making the others not seem as importent.
Post # 7
@DoubleK: That sounds like a lovely idea.