Honoring Relatives that Have Passed on at Your Wedding…

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You can put something small in the program. You can get one of those memorial candles. Maybe if you have a prayer at your reception you can say something about those who aren’t with you.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Here’s a picture of the candle.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

My husband’s father has passed away, and we put his parents’ and my parents’ wedding pictures on display.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

We did a photomontage and had the pictures titled “In Loving Memory” played first so that the funnier younger pictures would then create happiness 🙂 The phrase on the montage said “When someone you love becomes a Memory; The memory becomes a Treasure” It was a great quote. Maybe it would work for your table idea.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We’re doing a unity candle ceremony but integrating our ancestor candles into it.  We’re both having a candle made honoring the ancestors from our own individual families.  We’re lighting our individual tapers off of our ancestor candles, then lighting our unity candle with that.  🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I wanted to do something with a poem and add it to the program. But I am having a hard time trying to figure this out. I love the candle idea. I also thought about maybe a table too?

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i think that is a great idea – though all my grandparents have passed he still has all of them around -i still wanted to do something special for mine so on a table -maybe my cake table or gift table im going to have 6 pictures – i have some beautiful wedding pictures of my grandparents on both sides and a picture of my parents on their wedding day – i put them all in cute little frames and plan to put them on easles on the table. im hoping FMIL can find pictures like these from their side too.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I usually stick to the waiting boards, but forgive me just this once for butting in, lol.

We, too have passed relatives that I would want to honor at our (hopefully one day soon) wedding, and I remember seeing on here once about a rosemary plant/tree being used. It’s apparently associated with rememberance to honor those that have passed, as well as to never forget your vows, so it’s a common thing to see at both weddings and funerals alike. Maybe you could put pictures of the relatives you wish to honor around a potted rosemary plant? Add a touching poem or candle? Just some thoughts.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

All we did was have two bouquets made (3 white roses with greens) and placed them on the seats where they would have been sitting. One, for my Mom, was next to my Dad, and the groom’s Grandfather’s was next to his Gram.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

My husband’s parents have both passed away.  I put a tiny picture of his parents in his boutonnière.  He also carried two roses up the aisle with him and we left 2 empty chairs in the front row.  We decorated the chairs with a floral arrangement and he laid the roses in the chair.  We had pictures of them on display at the reception and also had a poem in the program.  It was something along these lines:

In Loving Memory of Mr & Mrs XXXXX

Although we can’t see you
we know you are here
Smiling down, watching over us
As we say “I Do”
Forever in our hearts,
Forever in our lives.
And so we say our vows
In loving memory of you.

 

I hope this helps!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Querida: OMG!  That is so sweet.  I started to tear up just thinking about it.  Very classy and I loved how you made the remembrance a quick part of the ceremony.  Thank you for sharing.  We will definitely be using this idea. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We found old pics of all the grandparents and great grandparents, had them printed in sepia tone and made a photo board that was displayed on the table with the placecards and seating chart.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

@GardenBride:  I’m glad the ideas were helpful!  I should also mention that at the time my parents were being seated (well after, really), one of my husband’s nephews carried the floral arrangement for the chair up the aisle.  I think it really helped my husband feel his parents presence with him that day and he later told me that he was completely touched that I wanted to incorporate them into the wedding.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I chose to do something a little different.  I had one white rose in my bouquet for every grandparent we had lost (thankfully, those were the only ones we needed to commemorate!) and had the priest explain that the white roses were honoring our grandparents.  It was like I was carrying them with me as we got married.  I just wish I had made sure the priest would remember since he kind of forgot day-of, but those who really needed to know knew.

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