Honoring/Remembering people who passed

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@AlmostHisWife:  My husband’s father had passed, as well as several others (grandparents and god parents).  Below is the language we used and I’m so glad we included those on the other side in our special day – totally felt their love and attendance – it was awesome.

Honoring a Parent/Relative That Has Passed Away

As we celebrate this wedding today, we would like to pay tribute to the special memory of those loved ones who arent able to be with us today: [name A], beloved father, [name B], cherished grandmother,[name C], beloved granny, and [name D], cherished granddaddy, [name E], loving godmother. We know they are with us today and every day. The love and lessons that they gave continues to live on; especially in the love that [bride’s name] and [groom’s name] bring to this marriage. We take this moment to honor our departed loved ones and request their blessing on this union. [Brief moment of silence]

 

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We aren’t having anything for our ceremony, but we are setting up a chair at the reception with pictures of loved ones that have passed. It’s our little “save a seat” for them.

 

My fiance isn’t too thrilled about it because he doesn’t want to be sad at our wedding (remembering and missing them), but his mom is making sure that it happens. It was her idea.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

No, we didn’t. We all remembered, in our hearts, the people who couldn’t be there but we felt that we didn’t want to introduce a sad and potentially morbid element to a happy day. In our case, there are pertinent reasons why we didn’t want death to be mentioned though.

 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I found a shop on Etsy that sells the bouquet charms for a decent price. I sent her the picture last night and she shipped out my charm this morning already. Here’s her shop:http://www.etsy.com/ca/shop/SmilingBlueDog?section_id=6068200

Other than that there’s a spot on our programs to mention people. 

 

 

 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@AlmostHisWife:  I did it for my brother but with your dad it would still be like he was walking you down the aisle. 

Plus it’s a small enough thing that it wouldn’t be noticeable to everyone unless you point it out. 

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I know it’s a popular thing to do, but I don’t think it’s appropriate to make too much of it at your wedding, which is a happy occasion.  Our pastor asked if we wanted anything said and I thought he had a great idea – he mentioned H’s mom and dad at the start of the reception when he said the blessing for the food.  

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I am having a table with pictures of my grandad and my MOH boyfriend who passed away in the past year with candles and flowers.

 

Also a slice of cake for my MOH Boyfriend because he LOVED cake!!

 

It was a done deal because it was so important to us

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

We put a memorial section in our ceremony program with a nice phrase and the names of our loved ones that have passed away

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

My mum and dad been dead for many years. But there will be no honouring/remembering/memorial to her. She will be with me bevcaiuse she is my mum. Having something said or written about a dead relative is morbid on a wedding day.

I don’t think it has anyplace or appropriate at a wedding

Post # 14
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Helper bee

I was never a huge fan of it, particularly for non immediate relatives (anyone not parent/sibling/child).  But when my dad died, I knew I would put him in the program. A bride’s father is kind of a noticeable absence, so I don’t think it will make it morbid. Not anything super bold, just a “As we celebrate today, we lovingly remember our family members who are with us in spirit, notably the bride’s father, (dad).” My mom will walk me down the aisle, and I will be ordering a bouquet charm with his picture. I won’t be doing empty seats because I don’t need my mom and I falling apart staring at it.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@mallo:  I think each couple has a right to choose what feels appropriate to them.  For us, it wasn’t morbid at all…it was a beautiful and special moment.  We’re American but have cultural roots where honoring ancestors is important, so no one thought it odd or inappropriate.  It just multiplied the feelings of love around us that day.

 

 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@mrsgrant:  Me saying my view on it doesn’t take away anything about you doing it.

I don’t think it has a place and wouldn’t feel right. You have the opposite view. Of course everyone has the right to put in the wedding what they want to

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