Post # 1
just had a panic attac. guess i can’t deal with waiting as well as i thought, even with a deadline. was thinking about the fact that D keeps having unprotected sex with me even thought i bought latex free condoms that won’t irritate his skin. started thinking oh my gosh i can’t get pregnant before i get married! also, my job requires that i am in shape, and if i were pregnant i wouldn’t be able to work. those thoughts and the fact that he knows he wants to propose, has the money for a ring, and still says,”within 6 months” caused a full blown panic atack. so i went in the bedroom and laid down for 10 minutes to calm down. came out and told him what happened, purposefully DIDN’T tell him i was stressing over the engagement also. and he simply says,”well you shouldn’t stress so much over that stuff” turns around walks out of the room and plays his video game. thanx for caring so much that i’m on the verge of a heart attack dude!
Post # 3
If you don’t want to get pregnant you need to make him wear the condoms or refuse to have sex. I hope you left the part where you’re on the pill out.
Post # 4
@Impatiently waiting: “D keeps having unprotected sex with me”
Um.. no. I hate to be snarky, but you’re having unprotected sex with each other. It’s up to both of you to commit to a BC plan if you don’t want to get pregnant.
Post # 5
I’m with the other commenters that you need to be on a form of birth control. It sounds like you also need to force him to wear a condom. It is still your body, take responsiblity for it!
Post # 6
If you dont want to get pregnant, then the both of you need to agree on that and use reliable birth control.
Post # 7
I know waiting can be tough; I can relate on that point.
However, if you’re not quite ready for babies, and/or if marriage is your ideal condition to start a family, you need to start taking the necessary precautions, each and every time. Unless your boyfriend is having sex with you while you are asleep, or taking advantage of you against your will, you are both making a conscious decision to have unprotected sex.
I’ll be the first to admit that condoms aren’t the most amazing thing on planet earth, and I personally have a hormone imbalance that makes most birth control dangerous for my body. However, I do what I can to ensure that I don’t become pregnant before the time is right. Believe me, the second you entertain the idea of “entering the rain zone without a slicker”, men are going to whine for the option every time. But if you’re not on birth control, it gets tricky. Take control of your body and set some ground rules. You need to have an open conversation with your boyfriend and get on the same page in regards to sex, children, and your future.
Post # 8
@Impatiently waiting: If you don’t want to get pregnant then get on BC or make him wear condoms. It’s simple as that. If you get pregnant then you can only blame himself.
Post # 9
ya i had a serious talk with him about it =) thanx ladies
Post # 10
definitely get on birth control especially since you aren’t ready yet and you want to be married first.
Post # 11
Can you go on hormonal birth control? That way you have more control of your own body.