Post # 1
I really hope that I am not making a mistake posting this but I was researching birth or labor and delivery photography in the Chicagoland area (for future reference) and I came across this photographers website.
I am really praying I’m not stepping on toes or causing anyone pain in any way and if that is the case please let me know and I can delete this post.
But I was curious what people thought about this Photographer who does “bereavement photography.” I’m going to link an article and then his website. I am literally sitting here in tears feeling for these families. I don’t know what I would want but this photographer seems like he has a huge heart.
What do you think?
Post # 3
There is an organization called “Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep” that comes and takes pictures free of charge for families who know their baby isn’t going to make it. A couple of photogs that I know volunteer for them, and I see them come in sometimes (I work in a children’s hospital). A friend of mine who lost her baby at 3 days old said it was one of the most healing things for her family to have a photographer come and take family pictures of them all together, and they really treasure those photographs. I think its a wonderful thing. Everyone grieves differently, and for families who want to document their baby’s time in this world, its such a gift to them.
Post # 4
Well. first I think you should put a*** trigger warning*** on the title of the thread, but aside from that, I think many who have been in this situation would appreciate the photography. They are still mommies and should be able to celebrate their babies in any way they choose.
Post # 5
Since I’m not in the situation I couldn’t even imagine why people would want pictures of such a horrible time in their life. This is something I can imagine no mother would even forget so I don’t know if I’d want pictures to make me cry everytime I see that. But then again I am not in that situation and would never judge someone on the way the handled the death of their child.
Post # 6
I definitely agree with that!! I’ll put some asteriks on the title! 🙂 The stories and pictures on his site were so moving for me!
Post # 7
I’ve never been through this and hope I never do. I think these pictures are good for those that they help. People grieve differently and I can only imagine how much the photographers that do this help the families. The pictures provide pictures of a baby that was such a big part of their life and will remain a large part of their life. I, like you, was in tears looking at the pictures and I can’t even imagine the pain the families are going through in them.
Post # 8
You know, at first, I was thinking no way would I do this. but, I looked at the photos, and read the story of Lynda and Stephen with little Joshua, and I am bawling. Honestly, I think that the photos are the best thing that they could have done, and I’m glad the hospital thought to push for this. What a beautiful way to remember a child.
Post # 9
:: sob :: His work is beautifully and tastefully done.
Post # 10
That is horrible, just made my bad day even worse. That is just so sad:(
Post # 11
Since this is a possibility with us (this child I’m carrying is healthy, but each pregnancy is a big roll of the dice for us so who knows if our next one will be)–I think it’s beautiful. If I were to go through an entire pregnancy knowing that the moments after birth may be the only time I ever have with my child, I’d like those moments and that little life to be honored and remembered. It seems like keeping momentos of the birth of stillborn babies or babies that die soon after birth– including photos– can be helpful in grieving.
Post # 12
Those photographs are beautiful and so touching.
God willing, Darling Husband and I will never be put in this awful situation. It would be one of our worst nightmares. But if we do, having those few hours, days, or weeks captured so beautifully would be a wonderful thing to cherish as we’d move forward.
ETA: I am crying at my desk at work from these photos and stories.
Post # 13
I don’t know what to say. But if I could show you the goose pimples on my arms, I would
Post # 14
Wow. At first I was going to be negative nancy and say how horrible this was but then I actually read the article. It seems like it really helps the family that is going through it. I can’t say that I would or would not personally want that if God forbig something like that would happen to us but I can understand why some parents would.
Post # 15
I was blessed with two beautiful healthy babies. Had I not been, I think this would have been such an amazing thing to have.
I think this man is wonderful for doing what he does.
Those stories and pictures may be some of the hardest things I’ve ever seen/read though.
Post # 16
One of my best friends lost a daughter to anencephaly, and a photographer from Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep came to take photos of her, her husband, and their 2 year old son with the baby, and they are so glad they have those pictures. It was really important to them to mourn her as a daughter and a part of their family, to give her a name, to celebrate her “birthday with God” with their other kids every year, and to continue to talk about her and remember her. She actually wrote a really beautiful blog post recently on the experience- I’ll see if she minds if I share that here.