Post # 1
So lately I’ve been having crazy dreams or maybe I should call them nightmares… They are normally FI deciding to up and leave, leaving me for someone else, or the strangest I’m with some other guy with no memory of cheating, but with the feeling that I have and FI leaving.
Neither of us has ever cheated on each other or had problems that made us want to leave. I never reconize the girls (thank goodness) in the dreams or the guys.. FI always turns into a whole new personalitgy where me being upset has no effect on him and he just leaves without a discussion.
I mention them to him every time and he always comforts me that he’s not leaving, doesn’t want anyone else, etc, but I feel terrible even having these dreams.. I always joke that I’m waiting to learn that he’s living a double life or something because I never thought I’d be this lucky or happy.
Anyone else ever have this happen close to their wedding or ever really?
Post # 3
Rarely- I will have a dream about some unknown guy- don’t read into it. It is probably just stress since the wedding is getting closer!
Post # 4
I’ve had weird dreams similar to this, too. I think it’s normal. Keep telling yourself that it’s just a dream and meaningless. It’s probably our psyche’s way of picturing those unspoken fears everyone has when they’re very much in love. If your FI was having dreams like that about you, you wouldn’t want him to be upset about them, right? Something that may help is to stop talking with him about it. The more you talk about it and dwell on it, the more likely you are to keep having the dreams. Just put them out of your mind.
Post # 5
Stress. I’ve had so many of these dreams while planning.
Post # 6
@Sunfire: You’re probably right. My worst fear is my dreams actually putting a girl he knows into it. Then I’ll just start telling myself my psychic and plot murders. Just kidding..
Post # 7
I have had similar dreams once or twice. Not so much with my FI leaving me but sometimes just him treating me really badly and me being totally confused as to why. My husband has these dreams every few months though! Always me leaving him. I always feel terribly when he tells me but I can’t control dream-me! lol.
Post # 8
@headoverhighheels: Haha! I’m sure once the wedding and stress is over you’ll be just fine! 🙂
Post # 9
@headoverhighheels: If I were you, I’d try my best to stop dwelling on them, stop worrying about them, and stop talking about them to your FI. They sound like just stress, and the bigger of a deal you make them out to be, the more your subconscious might keep producing them at night, because these types of thoughts have been on your mind all day, while you were worrying over the dreams! A neverending cycle!
Post # 10
It’s stress, try not ot worry.
Post # 11
I’ve always had these types of dreams about my husband through our dating, engagement and now marriage. They’re always terrible and involve him cheating or hurting me in some way and not caring at all. We joke that he’s a douche in my dreams because he’s so good to me in real life. My dreams are where his “bad side” comes out. I’d rather deal with a jerk-husband in my dreams than a jerk-husband when I’m awake. 😉
Post # 12
I’ve had dreams where I’ve cheated and dreams where he has cheated…. Neither of us have ever cheated or been cheated on in our lives!! I think it’s just pre-wedding jitters. I’ve also had the dream where he just won’t talk to me and leaves and I’m just left there hysterical and confused. But when I wake up, I know that would NEVER happen.