Post # 1
I recently decided, and was told by fellow bees, that I was doing more what everyone wanted/expected than what I wanted. So, I decided to cut four more people from the guest list, and that brings our total down to thirty, including groom and I.
My FMIL has been getting more quotes from vendors when I have already booked them! She claims she can “find a better price.” So now, my hairstylist/makeup artist thinks I hated my trial or whatever. Argh. I hate how she hurts people’s feelings-which she is super good at doing lately.
But, for the main point of this post, I hired a professional photographer and am having serious buyer’s remorse due to the cost of it. I did have a guest who was going to photograph it, but I was…really scared of our pictures not looking the best. I know most brides’ biggest regret is not spending enough on photography. And I got a really good deal; it was less than $3k and we get all rights to the pictures. But dang. Including rings and honeymoon tickets/hotel/breakfast, this brings the total up to around $13k, give or take. I just am so balking at this number! We can afford it but holy crap that is a lot for a small party! Not to mention we are buying a house, throwing a housewarming party, then $13k on the ceremony/reception, then going to Ireland for almost a week, then throwing a separate reception party when we get back for our friends.
Ahh, how expensive this stuff is. Argh.
Post # 2
Overwhelmed: 3K??? What region are you and what else do you get other than rights??
Post # 3
mrsaxachef: Around-about Charlotte, but photog is from SC so she is traveling a good bit. We get rights, all pictures on a thumb drive. For 500 more we could get a 10×10 book. Not sure if this was good or bad LOL.
Post # 4
Is the photographer top notch? I feel like thats kind of expensive.. we are getting 2 photographers for 8 hours, 20 10×8 page book, unlimited destinations, & thumb drive with print rights for 2k.
Post # 5
I agree that you are doing the right thing and your mom needs to stuff it. I also don’t think you necessarily got a “deal” for your photographer, but you’re not getting overcharged either (unless his/her work is total crap!!). Have you seen the photography work of the friend who volunteered to do it? My cousin is photographing our wedding, however we live in Colorado and he is in Michigan. I sent him $1000 to pay for flights, hotels, and any lenses he will need to rent. He is not charging us for any labor and will give us full rights to the photos. I think you could shop around and find someone for less than 2k if it’s really bothering you. But if you get great photos for what you’ve paid, than you haven’t wasted a dime!! And I also balk at wedding costs! Our is nearing 10k and our original budget was 5k. Yikes!!
Post # 6
Are you talking to your FMIL about your vendors and costs like you’re talking abt your photographer here? If so, then you’re probably making your FMIL think you’re reconsidering your vendors and want/need help to find the best deals.
If you want her to stop getting vendor quotes, you should probably not talk about the cost of vendors (or she’ll try to beat the price) or about your doubts with vendors (or she’ll try to find you ones you like more). Instead, maybe limit your discussion of vendors or try to sound more confident and only tell her things like – my hair trial was perfect, so glad I’ve found the perfect hairstylist and booked them. If you’re already doing that & she’s still getting quotes, you can just tell her you’ve got vendors handled and politely ask her not to keep doing that (or maybe have your FI let her know that).
Post # 7
mrsaxachef: That’s pretty standard, and a relatively good price for people in her area (I live a couple hours away). Sucks, doesn’t it! I’m paying the same, and that cost does not include an album or anything.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
Tell your FMIL to STOP.SHOPPING. Explain gently that, for example, she has inadvertantly caused this issue with your makeup person.
RE: photography– have you seen your guest/friend’s work?
I’m having a friend do mine and I know I’m in good hands, but if this is something essential to you, you need to make sure. What kind of portfolio does your friend have? Personaly I think 3K is a LOT, but I am also possibly the cheapest person on the planet.