Post # 1
My SO has needed to have a blood test for months, but has a phobia about needles. He also likes to snack throughout the night, but he hasn’t eaten since 9pm last night, so going today is so ideal. Especially because I have the week off, and I don’t want to have to worry about doing this for the rest of the week. I’m sitting here waiting for him to get up. I have in the past, arranged to go to work later so that I can take him for the test before work, but this has resulted in him saying ‘I’m sorry, I messed up and ate already’ or ‘I just can’t do it’. He has an appointment to see a specialist in a month and those results NEED to be back in time. I’m feeling cranky already, and he hasn’t even got up and started refusing yet. I might have to bribe him…
Any other bees with needle phobias, or SO’s who have them? If so, how do you achieve the impossible?!
Post # 3
He should get a prescription for Xanax to take beforehand if it’s that bad.
Post # 4
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My FI passes out when he gets his blood taken, he hates needles so much. However, he is so supremely logical that he would never refuse hahaha. I have no advice other than to appeal to his reasoning, and enforce that it’s better to get things over with
Post # 5
I get sick having my blood drawn but for me the problem is the blood, not the needle. Still I get through it okay by 1) not looking! 2) laying down with my feet up while I have my blood drawn (any nurse should oblige) and 3) having someone make conversation to distract me if possible. Ask him a question about something that really interests him and get him talking right before the needle goes in. He might still squirm a little but its nowhere near as bad.
Post # 6
Drag him in!
Honestly, if it is a major anxiety thing, his doctor can prescribe him something to calm his nerves beforehand. But most people are logical, and will suck it up and get it over with.
Just support him, encourage him, and tell him how important it is to you that he gets this done so that he stays healthy and well!
What is he nervous about? The pain? Does he have a reason for this- like crappy veins? If so, the med may be necessary. But for most people it’s one small poke and it’s over with. Stressing about it will make him much more miserable for weeks and weeks than just getting it over with.
Is it a fear of the test results? Then that’s something you’ll have to talk through with him, as best as you can.
If you/he can recognize the cause of his distress, that’ll help a lot.
I don’t have much advice if it’s plain old fear of needles, though. It’s not rational so it can’t be reasoned with!!
Post # 7
@Deejayelle: How frustrating. You’re not his mom or caregiver, and you shouldn’t have to be responsible for his health. We are all adults and we know what we need to do – which may not correlate to what we want to do. Like a PP said, I would just appeal to his logic, i.e. do you want to waste a specialist appointment that we have? Isn’t it easier to get it over with now? I’m home to go with you, so doesn’t that make it better?