Post # 1
It happened a couple days ago but happened to a friend today as well.
I’m at 33 weeks now. The swelling has gotten bad in the last few weeks, its getting harder to get up, I can’t see my toes without leaning forward, the stomach is further out than the chest now.. needless to say going into the third trimester I have felt that pregnancy “glow” fade as my husband jokes about my new onset snoring issues and suddenly everything causes acid reflux. Not always feeling particularly confident at all hours. So when a woman asked how much longer I had to go she follows my answer “you’re so huge, are you sure its not twins?” Yeah, I’m sure its not lady. But she went on to insist my belly was so huge there could be a baby in hiding. I let it go and just made sarcastic comments mentally. My weight gain has been ideal as well as my stomach growth. I’ve been pregnant once and known many pregnant women. My stomach is the size of any typIcal singular pregnancy at 33 weeks.
My friend today posted a belly photo on facebook and all the comments were “you’re so huge, are you sure its not twins or triplets?”. This girl is in awesome shape and 37 weeks along. Do people forget that women’s stomachs grow whilst pregnant?
Ok I’m calm but please tell me that my friend and I are not the only ones who get rude comments?
Post # 2
Mrslovebug: No, unfortunately this happens to many women. I was getting dinner with a friend who was about 38 weeks pregnant and we ran into a family friend. This women started the “are you sure there is just one in there?” talk and I wanted to smack her. My friend completely took it in stride but if I am ever pregnant (!!!) I will be so upset by those comments!
Post # 3
Mrslovebug: I honestly think that society is so fixed on seeing skinny/slender/fit/average women that they actually forget what a pregnant woman looks like. I’m 21 weeks along and I get all of those same comments. I’m not that big but people sure do know how to drag your spirits into the gutter.
Post # 4
Eh its a damned if you do damned if you don’t thing. I’m small and I get the “wow are you sure you are due in a few more weeks? “Are you eating enough then” Comment now. Even my own mom made comments about how “I’m finally looking pregnant” in the last few weeks. If it’s someone you dont care about insulting I’d reply in a snarky way. People are so judge mental and obnoxious sometimes and add pregnancy and they all think they know everything.
Post # 5
I’ll be so brutally honest with this:
EVERYONE said, “God your belly is so HUGE!” when I was pregnant and I actually took it as a compliment because for me, I’ve felt fat my entire life and it was gratifying to hear people thought my belly was large because it meant that it was out of proportion with the rest of my body (ie, my body wasn’t really that big in comparison to my belly).
Fucked up, right?
Hon, I’m sure you don’t look huge. You just look pregnant–ie, you have ANOTHER PERSON who’s somewhere around 18″ long and 6 pounds, hanging out in your uterus–and people are twats.
(if it helps, one of my friends, whenever she got the “you’re so huge!” she’d pull an Amy Sedaris-type thing and moan, “Oh God, I know–I’ve been trying not to eat and to throw up as much as I can when I DO eat, but it just doesn’t seem to be making much of a difference.” Don’t know how she did it with a straight face.)
Post # 6
That really sucks. I’ve had it too and I’m only 23 weeks! People will comment either way, I guess the trick is just to know they’re not meaning it to hurt your feelings. People truly do seem to have verbal diarohea when it comes to talking to pregnant women.
Post # 7
People are going to make comments no matter what, and the worst part is that it’s kind of awkward because how are we supposed to respond? My husband and I were gifted a night at a hotel Saturday night and at breakfast the next morning I had an older lady ask me how far along I was. When I said I was due at the end of May…she said ” are you sure? You look so small”. I really didn’t know how to respond, so I just said ” thank you, because I don’t feel so small.” Apparently that wasn’t the right answer and I shouldn’t be happy that I’m so small because she looked at me like I had three heads. Seriously… people need to keep their comments to themselves unless they want to tell a woman who’s expecting how fabulous or incredible she looks. To me , those are the only appropriate comments. Nothing we can do to control it though 🙂