- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Hey everyone. I am writing this post to get some of these emotions off of my chest.
This week, my FMIL found out that she has rectal cancer. It was so out of nowhere, as she hasn’t been sick, and everyone is still registering the horrible news. I love this woman to death, and I’m so completely crushed by this. My FI is having a difficult time dealing with it as well.
So many people rely on his mother, and she does so much for her family and for others–she is truly a wonderful woman. I can’t even believe that this is happening to her. She is getting a bunch of tests done, then will go through chemo and radiation, then finally surgery. We are all hoping that she can beat this.
I know that this may sound completely selfish, but I really don’t mean to be… my mother is paying for our wedding reception site, and has put the $3,000 non-refundable deposit down. I am worried that the wedding won’t happen and that she will lose her deposit. I am also aware that there is a possibility of the wedding being pushed back, depending on FI’s mother’s treatment and how everything works out. His mother plays a very important role in our lives, so we definitely want her at the wedding and involved in the planning, and I know that she wants this too.
Believe me, the wedding is SO MUCH LESS important than her health, survival, and family. The discussion of anything wedding related is kind of being placed on the backburner at this moment in time since there are bigger and more important things to worry about. However, at the same time, I don’t know if I should continue planning, going to bridal show, etc. while this is all going on.
I know that might sound horrible that I am even still thinking about a wedding at this time, but it’s important to me too. I just don’t know what to do.
Thanks for reading and if you have any insight, I’d definitely appreciate it 🙂