Post # 1
20 days to go and I’ve been happily sitting here until now, thinking “I’m so glad this wedding planning thing hasn’t been stressful”. Well, today proved me wrong:
1. The reception venue coordinator hasn’t made an attempt to get in touch with me with regards to discussing final numbers, food tasting, etc. I called her last Monday to arrange a date and she said she’d call me Tuesday. It’s now Sunday and nothing, so I’ll have to call her again tomorrow to chase it up. I’m running out of days to come in and meet with her.
2. My FI injured his ring finger playing footy and he decided to try on his ring tonight. IT DOESN’T FIT! So we have to pay for it to be resized and find somewhere that will do it in time.
3. My sister, a BM, spent the whole night tonight making snide comments about the wedding like “oh, great, a ten hour day” (from when the MUA gets there to the very end of the night). I wasn’t aware she was being forced to participate, but oh well…
Argh! Sorry, Bees, just had to vent a bit. Ever feel like you’re the only one shouldering all this wedding stress and all you need is some help??
Post # 3
@littlebeanpole: I’m so sorry you had a rough day! I’m about 3 1/2 months out, and I definitely have had my moments. Mostly to do with my mother. She’s hosting (read: paying) for the wedding, so we’ve had our fair share of power struggles.
I try to just remember the end game – to be married to the love of my life. Keep that thought as the light at the end of the tunnel and you’ll be fine. Good luck!
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
@littlebeanpole: Ugh I totally hear you! What’s with people not responding? Sorry your sister is being a turd. Doesn’t it suck when people don’t share our excitement about our big day? I mean, they can’t be quite as happy as we are but c’mon!!
Post # 5
ugh, that is frustrating!! Is it possible your FI’s finger is just swollen??? I also hear you about the sister thing. Whenever I hear that she is making comments (always from other people, we dont speak), I just smile and say she doesn’t have to come!!!
Post # 6
@jasonkatie2014: It is swollen, but he’s seen the doctor and the doctor reckons the swelling will never improve 100% and won’t go down at all for about a year. I did tell him to get it buddy taped to the finger next to it when he plays sport, but he goes “nah it’ll be right” and OF COURSE it got worse. Apparently it was badly sprained about six months ago, it never got treated properly and now it’s stuffed.
Post # 7
@littlebeanpole: yikes!!! I’m cringing just at the thought! Just take a deep breath and remember: It can always be worse! Everything will be fine 🙂
Post # 8
@littlebeanpole: Sorry you are having so many problems :/
Taking that long to respond is incredibly stressful! I wonder if she tried and just didn’t leave a message? TBH I would have been calling everyday starting Wednesday if my wedding was that close!
My ring is always resized within a week so I think you should be able to find a place?
Your sister and BM are being totally rude. 10 hours is NOT bad (I have been in wedding parties that start with make up at 7:30am and with clean up go until at least 1am) and even if it is… what did they expect? They should absolutely not be giving you crap about it!
Hopefully you have a better planning day the rest of the day!
Post # 9
@MrsBeck: Yeah I’ve been checking my phone for missed calls – nothing! I’m going to call on my lunch break today and not get off the phone until she gives me a date.
FI and I are going to a jewellery shop tomorrow to ask about resizing. Fingers crossed! I did worry about footy injuries before the wedding but I was more concerned about broken bones or concussions. I didn’t think his finger would cause a problem!
Rude comments from my sister are nothing new (she also told me yesterday that teachers have an easy job and that it was funny that I was following etiquette rules with regards to wedding invitations because I’m usually “tacky”). If I could have my time over again I would not choose her as a BM. She’s literally done nothing except complain. She also invited someone to my bridal shower which is next weekend – so she’ll probably just sit in the corner the whole time making catty comments to her friend. I haven’t asked anything of her financially, all she had to do is choose a dress (I chose the colour but let her choose the style) and then show up on the wedding day! Honestly, she drives me nuts and it also annoys me that my parents never call her on her rudeness. She speaks like this to them as well, so maybe they’re used to it, but I don’t see why we should all be expected to sit back and listen to her trash us.