(Closed) Horrifyingly bad wedding photos :(

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

I’d look into taking her to small claims court.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

I don’t know what to tell you – I’m just really sorry.  ๐Ÿ™

Is there even one that you sort of like (that we could see)?  I think having the pictures taken with your DH is a great idea, but I understand it’s not the same.  Are there any guest pics that you could edit online and print so you at least have something to frame?

Also, I would write her an email to let her know just what you said to us.  I would stop apologizing and let her know how rude she was on your wedding day and how you feel the photos are unusable.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Juliepants:  ^^^ this.

So sorry u have to go through this.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

I am so sorry!  Not that it excuses her actions but I’m sure your photog was stressed the day of and held on to them because maybe she was trying to edit them, but clearly nothing could be done so she said screw it and sent them your way.

I definitely agree that you should take her to small claims court and recruit your guests to get all the pictures they might have of your day.

Best of luck.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Oh that sucks.

In addition to what PP’s suggested about dealing with your photographer, I’d advise setting up an online album guests could post pictures to. We used yogile- paid $25, and there’s no password, which makes it really easy for our guests- just upload. We’ve gotten some amazing photos from friends & family- I’ll bet you have some great photos from guests you just haven’t seen yet.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Small claims court is sounding like the way to go. I’m so sorry this happened to you. No bride should have to go thru this. I had many unusable and blurry photos of important moments, so I understand your frustration. To have all your photos be bad is inexcusable.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yikes.  I think you should confront her.  Sit down with her and go through your photos and ask her if she honestly thinks she did a great job when you can’t see anything and they’re out of focus or cropped in weird places.  She can either tell you she’s sorry or she can lie and say you’re wrong.  Either way, you’ll know whether you should invest any more time in this friendship or if it’s time to cut the cord.  Then I would send out a message to your friends and family to ask them to share their photos of your special day.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I don’t think taking her to small claims will really do anything but bring you more stress, heartache and money. The first point for future brides to reflect on is why it’s a bad idea for hiring friends or family, the other is you really get what you pay for. Not that you deserved it in any way, it breaks my heart when I hear story’s like this.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

@ForeverSummer:  I think you’re handling this really maturely, and I would definitely go ahead with the poor review and the letter.  Your new photo shoot is going to be AWESOME and you’re going to have some beautiful “wedding” photos to hang in your home!

Try to write out a list of all the wonderful things that were positive about your wedding and read it every time you’re feeling down about the shitty pictures.  Don’t let this one aspect taint your memories of your whole day.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@ForeverSummer:  Unfortunately small claims court will get you nowhere. She doesn’t even sound like she has a legit business going, and you hired her knowing her lack of experience. I appreciate your willingness to share this story in the hopes that others will see it and think twice about hiring someone who is still in the portfolio building stages of wedding photography. It’s not an event that can be re-captured and it’s certainly not worth the risk in most cases. Unfortunately you can’t expect a professional experience or result from someone who is not a professional.

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m so sorry this happened to you. (((HUGS))).

I did not experience this scenario. However, even though I had a very nice, very polite, extremely hard-working photographer, I, too, was disappointed in many of my wedding pictures. I know it’s painful to see some of the absolutely breathtaking photojournalistic shots that many other brides have from their weddings and then compare them with your own. It’s hard when you had those few, special, once-in-a-lifetime hours of your life that you can never re-create, and the pictures just did not capture all of those moments the way you had hoped or envisioned.

One thing that has helped me is that I have come to realize that very few people care about wedding pictures that are not of their own weddings. Yes, for a short time after a wedding, family and friends may “ooooh” and “ahhhhh” over your wedding pics.  However, for the most part, shortly thereafter, people will no longer proactively be interested in seeing them. I’ve come to appreciate the fact that the people who attended my wedding have BETTER pictures — those captured by their own eyes and which have now become their own memories — than I could possibly ever have showed to them. I’ve also finally realized that, with the possible exception of my mother, no one else is at all bothered by the shortcomings of my wedding photography. (Not even my DH really spent any time looking at our wedding pictures after he saw them all for the first time.)

I hope that family and friends who took pictures at your wedding will make certain that you receive copies, and I hope that you find some amazing and wonderful shots among those taken by your guests!

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