Post # 1
Hey Bees!! My husband’s best friend just got engaged. Neither of the parents of the couple have planned an engagement party… so I offered to host one! The couple was thrilled and very thankful and said they would love one. Now, I’ve never been to an engagement party.. but I always wish someone had thrown one for me.. so I really wanted to be able to do one for our friend!
I’m not very close to the bride, but I know they are both very quiet and would definitely prefer something more casual rather than something fancy or overdone. I’m in need of some party ideas for a casual yet elegant event that will be held at our home. I don’t know any of the the brides friends or family, so I don’t want to do a potluck because it would be hard to coordinate with them.. I’d rather just do everything on my own.
Please help me out with any tips or ideas on what i could serve.. how i could set everything up etc. I was thinking a come-and-go cocktail and finger food party would be nice…
Thanks in advance for the ideas!
Post # 3
First of all, that’s very thoughtful of you to volunteer to host an engagement party! I recently went to one that was very laid-back, yet simply elegant. It was held outside at someone’s home. We ate some great southern food (I see you’re from OK, so this could work!) catered in and just hung out in the back yard. There were tables and very simple centerpieces (think votives, floating flowers, stones on a mirror) which added a classy touch. I think the important thing is just to make it comfortable — it’s where a lot of the bridal party, parents are getting to know each other, just for everyone to have a good time!
Post # 4
I suggest a backyard bbq – informal, cheap and fun!
Post # 5
Backyard BBQ sounds nice – perhaps even make a cocktail and name it "Perfect Proposal" which is what I did for the decanter of peach martini’s I made for ours. We actually hosted our own & did a cocktail party at the condo – asked guests to wear cocktail attire ( no suits, no jeans) and everyone come in Black & white. We set up two bars in the house, invited about 40 people and bought cheap glassware from Ikea so we had martini glasses and all. We did about ten different platters of finger food & it was great! It was casual, intimate and elegant. I could have imagined it being any other way. We simply played a CD with a mix of jazz, light romatic spanish and some Ring Bearer in the mix in the background playing. Didnt want it to become a dancing fiasco – we’d prefer all the partying to occur at our wedding.
Engagement parties should be intimate and not a huge production I feel. Good luck & that was very nice of you to host the party. Engagement parties are fairly new to Hispanic families, so I just jumped the gun on hosting it since I even had to explain the whole concept to my Cuban parents.
If you need any finger food receipes, PM me. I would be more than happy to share easy recipes with you & ideas!
Post # 6
I think a cocktail and appetizers/finger foods party would work perfect. Set-up a bar area somewhere in your home or yard and have a station where they can pick at some munchies. Put some music on low in the background and let people mingle. Maybe decorate with a picture of the couple if you have one and maybe a small cake for dessert.
Post # 7
Thank you so much for the ideas ladies! I’m a lil worried about doing anything outdoors because Oklahoma summer heat is nearly unbearable! Perhaps if we do it late enough it wont be so bad!
Post # 8
You sound like an amazing friend to plan an engagement party for this couple. They are lucky to have someone like you in their lives. A cocktail/finger food engagement party sounds perfect for a quiet couple who would want a more casual atmosphere. You could think about grilling out (mini hamburgers and such), because it would be inexpensive, casual, and convenient. Get one of your friends to grill the food, so you can host the party. You could put buckets of canned and bottled drinks in different areas of the party and set up a small bar area in the kitchen or outside. One of my friends had a great party with about 80 guests at her home where she had two of her friends behind the bar playing bar tender for the first part of the night and by the end everyone was making their own drinks. It was a lot of fun. One easy and inexpensive way to decorate an outdoor location is to use paper lanterns which you can buy at the dollar store, Michael’s, or probably Walmart.
Here is an article that I wrote about planning an engagement party that might be helpful for you.
Post # 9
I agree with the other gals about a cocktails and hors d’ oeuvres party.
I suggest you hire a couple of college girls to help set up, keep the ice bucket filled, stock the buffet, and clean up.
This way you and your can spend all your time and attention on each other.
I always hire college gals for my parties. It’s not expensive for a few hours and I always let them take home a big plate of left overs. I ask each to wear a light top and dark pants (jeans and white Ts are fine) and I have two blue chef aprons for them to wear so everyone knows who is partying and who is working.
I tape instructions on the refrigerator for them to refer to.