- 3 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
Instead of doing a rehearsal dinner, we are planning a welcome dinner that will include all of our guests. FH and I started planning this immediately as we were not expecting any involvement from his parents. A couple months ago, FMIL wrote FH a hefty check and said that she’d like to pay for the dinner, but we were welcome to plan it as we wish and keep her informed. She did say that she was paying for it because she felt it was her duty, which stung a little, but we’re still grateful that she’s acknowledging the wedding and wants to be involved.
Since she’s paying for it entirely, she’s technically hosting it, yes? I’m getting ready to have FH email her and update her about the plans. I think he should also ask her what level of involvement she would like to have. Whether she’d like her name on the invitations (and collect RSVPS), whether her and her husband (FH’s step dad) would like to run the show day of, give speeches, etc. Is this the right call, or should I assume she wants out?