Post # 1
If the mother of the bride is paying for 52% of the wedding, the groom’s parents are paying for 24%, and we are paying for 24%, how should we word the invitation with proper etiquette?
My fiance wants to say “together with their families” which seems to indicate that we are paying for the wedding, which isn’t entirely the case. My mom doesn’t care to be involved in a lot of the planning, she just wanted to contribute the money. Should we use wording that indicates the brides family is paying, wording that includes both families, or that indicates we are paying?
This topic was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by KW2014. Reason: grammar
Post # 2
KW2014: does your mom care how its worded? Maybe “together with their parents” will work. You are, in fact, paying for the wedding along with your parents. I know sometimes parents want to issue the invitations, so maybe “bride’s mom, together with groom’s parents, request the pleasure of your company at the wedding of….”
Post # 3
The way you are paying is the very definition of “together with their parents” – you’re all paying.
My parents are the only names on the invitation – because they are paying for ALL of it. The above suggestion, listing your mother first and then the groom’s parents could also work.
Post # 4
I would use, “together with their parents”, this would be what you are doing.
It’s what I used on my invitations, even though both sets of parents contributed a very small about [probably less than 1% of the wedding]. It’s not about the money they spent, it’s about the contribution made.
Post # 5
Thanks! I think we’ll use “together with their families.”