- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
So this is a bit of a long story, but here is the gist of it:
My friend.. lets call Mary has been my friend for 3 years. My Fiance and even lived with her for a short while. When we all graduated from out undergrad school we all ended up moving to the same City, and my Fiance and her started working at the same place.
Mary is the type of girl who wants to be super close and hang out all the time, but ONLY when she doesn’t have a boyfriend, so once she gets a guy in her life she will ignore me completely.
Well, I got engaged on Valentines Day 2011 and she was so supportive and excited for me that I asked her to me my Maid/Matron of Honor.
Then.. she met a guy, and about 3 months later got pregnant, and about 5 months after that had a shotgun wedding. She asked me to be in her wedding (there were only two bridesmaids, me and her husbands sister). I also took a million pictures for her because I knew she would like that.
She is due in January, and while I know I am not getting married until July 7th… I am feeling really frustrated because I haven’t spoken to her since her Oct. 1st wedding. I have texted her (not called because she works graveyard shifts) and tried to get her attention on facebook, but she is basically just ignoring me.
Now my mom and Fiance are both asking me why I even want her in my wedding. She has ALWAYS been this type of person and I can’t even understand why I have set myself up to be let down by her again!
I am wondering if I should just ask her if she even wants to be involved anymore. Its not like she has to do ANYTHING, my cousin has offered to host my bridal shower and my best friend from high school is more than willing to do anything she can. Or maybe since she isn’t even taking to me she wouldn’t even notice if she was in the wedding party anymore or not.
Is it worth it to say anything? I know she is super pregnant and her life has gone through some BIG changes, but this is just how she has always been.
Anyway, thanks for letting me rant Bees!