Post # 1
How was I supposed to know that hotel blocks are the most stressful part of wedding planning!? My wedding is in a big city and is a destination for 99% of the guests so they’ve been asking me about hotels since day one.
In the past 2 days people have come to me and complained about the following (I have 2 hotels on my list):
–they want the hotel near public trasportation/downtown, not my venue
–it’s too expensive
–it’s too cheap and they want a fancier hotel/ or a hotel with a bar
–Didn’t I know there were better rates on hotwire? I should have negotiated a better deal.
–they like a different brand of hotel (Marriott vs Hilton) so they can get rewards points. These people just told me they aren’t staying at our hotels.
I just want our families staying in the same hotel!!!! Why is this so hard?! I honestly feel bad about people traveling for my wedding so one of my hotels is cheaper and everyone has complained about it.
Post # 3
Sometimes having all your family and guests in just 2 hotels isn’t realistic. People have varying budgets, tastes and priorities.
Just add a link to the hotel page on the toursim board for the city where you live and a line that says” if these choices don’t work for you, try this for more choices.”
These people are adults. They normally travel without your help. Let them be responsible for their own hotel room.
Post # 4
Except these people keep asking for hotel blocks.
Has anyone gotten away with not doing hotel blocks? How do you give them out of town bags?
Post # 5
I did not block hotel rooms as i have no idea who is coming from out of town and i dont want to be responsible for paying for hotels that arent booked. I did, however, “suggest” hotels. Most of my out of town guests know folks in town so i dont know how many would just crash with friends/family.
Turns out there is a huge convention in my city so the prices skyrocketed for those that are available. There’s not much I can do about it so i’m not going to worry with it. I am also not doing bags for folks since I did not do blocks.
Part of my motivation to handle that way is that I am one of those folks who ignores hotel blocks. I either book straight with the hotel since it’s usually cheaper or I book another fancier hotel for cheaper elsewhere.
Post # 6
Yeah I keep seeing hotels on hotwire for about half the price! I just don’t understand why they won’t give me a block for cheaper? Weird.
Yes I think I might do a lot of hotel “suggestions” and then one block at the hotel I’m staying at.
Post # 7
It is possible to block hotel rooms without shelling out the money to set them aside yourself, depending on the hotel. Larger chains (Hilton, Marriott) are more likely to do this. They offer a discounted rate within a certain date and if the rooms aren’t taken by then, they become available at no charge to those who blocked the rooms.
Post # 8
We had a block in one hotel and then suggested other nearby hotels from the other hotel brands (we always use Marriott because Darling Husband has tons of status with them from work and we get more points).
Providing hotel blocks for your guests is a courtesy, not a requirement. If they don’t like the rates or hotels you picked, they can book in whatever other hotel they want. It doesn’t matter if everyone is in the same place.
Post # 9
We got married in San Diego near the water pretty far away from downtown. We had hotel blocks that were literally one block from our venue (like, my husband and I walked to our wedding!!). One couple insisted that they stay downtown and then were offended that we didn’t have a wedding shuttle that would come and pick them up/drop them off. WTF? That’s why we had a great hotel blocked off a block away! So noone would have to drive!!
Post # 10
lol yes. I wanted them at the hotel near my venue in case they’re a little drunk.
My friends just don’t want to rent cars I guess? But if they don’t have a car I don’t know how they’ll get to my wedding.
I seriously can’t please everyone, but it’s hard enough pleasing anyone.
Post # 11
I am not having to go through this experience but all I can say is I am so sorry. This should not be your most stressful part of wedding planning. But if itmakes you feel better, just know that you can never please anyone. Period. Not possible. Dont let them get under your skin. They can always book at another hotel if they choose.
Post # 12
Our wedding was pretty local, so the only people that stayed over were in the wedding, our parents, or a few out of town guests. I did a hotel block (with no discount – our small hotel wouldn’t budge) at our venue for the rooms I knew we needed plus a couple extra and sent out a list with the invites of hotels nearby and their rates and websites for anyone who was interested.