Post # 1
I work in the tourism industry and are trying to gain more coverage for our accomodations. We had some hoteliers when we were out one evening that asked us to write in the description they were Gay Friendly. We said Ok – No problem, but then a gay couple at the next table turned to us and said that they found that cliff-note on hotel descriptions really insulting. We invitied the guys over to sit with us and had an amazing conversation. (What was supposed to be a light dinner before an early bed for DH and I turned into a table of 10+ people debating the night away until stupid o’clock in the morning.) The couple said to us that when they see this note, they feel compared to a dog-friendly hotel, or that we regressed 100 years where some ethnic minorities were only allowed into certain places.
It really got us thinking, and we enquired a few of our gay friends, and the results were around 80% against, 20% for. It really left us in a conundrum about adding the cliff-note or not. I would really love to hear from you all about your opinions on the matter.
Post # 3
I’m not gay, but have friends very firmly on both sides of this issue, so I do think that it tends to be hit to miss. One couple I’m friends with will only stay at places that promote themselves as gay-friendly when they travel outside of Canada/the US/Western Europe, as they’ve had some really uncomfortable experiences elsewhere. Another friend of mine thinks it’s patronising and stupid and won’t stay at places that advertise as such on principle. I do have a few friends who don’t really like the expression ‘gay friendly’ but like other signs that hotels are welcoming – diverse couples including gay couples in their advertising, or the hotel being a member of IGLTA.
Post # 4
I can’t answer your poll. The fact that places need to say gay friendly bothers me, because it means that there are places that are NOT gay friendly. It’s an example of straight privilege, actually.
Post # 5
I also work in Hospitality, and I had to complete a course through the LGBTG in Canada which allowed us to be advertised on their database and attend their wedding shows. I would never say “gay friendly” in any advertising. That is just insulting.
Post # 6
I don’t understand why there should be a statement of that effect. There should be no discrimination, and no preferences, we are all human beings! I find this offensive as part of the human race.
Post # 7
@happyface: You would think so right?? Its disgusting but a fact that there are still many people out there who are rude/racist/homophobic. Working in weddings, I saw more then one same sex couple come to get married at our hotel who had just been rejected from others.
Post # 8
I have to agree with a PP mentioned: I as a lesbian, I somewhat find it insulting that a business would make a difference, but then again, we live in a world that DOES make a difference between straight/ gay/ etc… That said, I don;t care what a business advertises in the US, Canada or Western Europe. In any othe rplace, I’d be enclined to book or use the services of a business that advertises as gay-friendly. Hope that makes sense and helps!
Post # 9
I’m not gay but sort of feel like this is very insulting. Why are gays different than everyone else? I feel it’s similiar to a hotel years ago saying blacks welcome. These are people, and should be treated with respect regardless of sexual orientation. I don’t believe anyones sexual orientation should be a discussion when checking into a hotel. If I worked at the hotel and saw someone being treated poorly, I would kick that guests out that was being rude since that isn’t the type of behavior I would tolerate in an establishment.
Post # 10
Well I live in South Florida so all hotels are gay friendly down here lol. But sometimes I see a commercial for a hotel in Key West that states its gay friendly, but by gay friendly it almost means its just for gays. It has a clothing optional pool and half naked men chillin by the pool.
I think down here at least, when a place states its gay friendly it pretty much means it has an all around gay atmosphere to it and others are more than welcome to stay there, but its just a warning for lack of better words.
By the way Fort Lauderdale is like the gay capital of the world so I think it’s a lot different down here. not as many judgemental people.
Post # 11
Thanks for your feedback guys!
@kittyface: The IGTLA sounds like exactly the direction we need to go, and I will be bringing it up with my boss. Also I’ll be suggesting our collaborators to look into signing up to show their support.
I agree wholeheartedly that it is wrong that there is still so much discrimination against people, because of their sexuality – and it does piss me off. Seeing the problems that many same-sex couples on here with regards to finding suppliers etc that do not have a problem with same-sex marriage is heartbreaking. I couldn’t imagine needing to ask if my florist had a problem with me marrying the person I love. The thing is – this discrimination IS still out there, and things really do need to start changing.
The first thing would be education, for unaware people like myself who try to do something out of good, only to step on toes and end up insulting someone when that is not the intention. This is why I love the Hive, we can ask questions, and like the ace community it is, we get informative answers and learn something new every time.
Thanks once again Bees!!
Post # 12
I’ve seen stickers around universities that promote postive spaces. I’ve even seen them on prof’s doors at a Christian university.
Maybe putting something like that on an add, or on the homepage could help? If I’m way off base, please let me know!
Post # 13
I went into a shop in Utah a few weeks ago that had a gay pride flag on the door, which I’m guessing is their way of saying they’re gay friendly. It’s really sad this still has to be done (but you know, Utah) but I totally see both sides. I’m not gay, but my sister is and I know she only stays at ‘gay friendly’ hotels because otherwise you have no idea what you’re going to get…
Post # 14
It wouldn’t offend me, but I think a better/more subtle way would be to include a gay couple in one of their photos on the site.
Post # 15
@moonadea: ITA! An ad that shows all different types of couples would get the point across clearly that they do not discriminate.
And, yes, I do agree with PPs: one day, none of this will be necessary. Everyone will be treated with respect.
Post # 16
I was recently looking for a rental in New Orleans and there was a B&B that was owned by a gay couple that had GAY FRIENDLY all over it with some innuendos. It made me feel like they didn’t want straight business and I wondered why they advertised like that.