Hotel room for bridesmaids

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Who should pay for the hotel?
    The bride only : (11 votes)
    65 %
    Bride and bridesmaids split the bill : (1 votes)
    6 %
    Bridesmaids only : (2 votes)
    12 %
    MOB only : (2 votes)
    12 %
    Other (please explain) : (1 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    2946 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    pinkrose23: what does your mom think? If it were me, I’d split it with my mom (if she’s financially able and offers) or just take care of it myself. 

    FI and I chose our venue because accommodations for us and our immediate families are included in the venue fee. So we are paying for it ourselves.

    Post # 3
    Member
    333 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Personally, I would have my bridesmaids book the room for the night of the bachelorette party and let them pick what hotel. That is their doing to plan that day. As for the night prior and night of the wedding, I would split the hotel bill with my mother.

    Post # 4
    Member
    12447 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’d book the room myself.  If the BMs or your mom offers to cover a portion, that’s great.  If not, I would just take on the expense myself.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2999 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    pinkrose23:  I would pay for the one hotel room that you plan on for everyone, with possibly splitting it with your mom.  If the girls don’t want to share what you bought (which is a possiblity) you can let them get their own room out of pocket. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    1693 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I think it is your responsibility to handle your own accomodations. I also don’t think it is your bridesmaid’s responsibility to pay for your hotel for the night of the bachelorette. If they offer, that is very generous but I would not expect them to.  if you are paying for the hotel for yourself anyways, I would just generously allow the girls to stay there if they choose to. Are they bringing dates to the wedding? Keep in mind some of the girls may prefer to stay in a hotel with their significant others rather than in your room with you. I personally don’t think it is right to ask the girls for money for the hotel to offset your own cost if you are the one who wants them to stay with you.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1227 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    If you can afford it, then pay for the hotel yourself (or with your mom) for both nights. That would be a nice gesture.

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