Post # 1
I am going to book a hotel room for myself, my mother, and my 4 bridesmaids. My wedding is on a Friday, the rehersal is Thursday, and bachelorette party is Wednesday. I was going to book the hotel for Wednesday and Thursday night.
My question: Who pays for the room for these two nights? Do I pay for it? Do I split it with my bridesmaids and my mother?
Post # 2
pinkrose23: what does your mom think? If it were me, I’d split it with my mom (if she’s financially able and offers) or just take care of it myself.
FI and I chose our venue because accommodations for us and our immediate families are included in the venue fee. So we are paying for it ourselves.
Post # 3
Personally, I would have my bridesmaids book the room for the night of the bachelorette party and let them pick what hotel. That is their doing to plan that day. As for the night prior and night of the wedding, I would split the hotel bill with my mother.
Post # 4
I’d book the room myself. If the BMs or your mom offers to cover a portion, that’s great. If not, I would just take on the expense myself.
Post # 5
pinkrose23: I would pay for the one hotel room that you plan on for everyone, with possibly splitting it with your mom. If the girls don’t want to share what you bought (which is a possiblity) you can let them get their own room out of pocket.
Post # 6
I think it is your responsibility to handle your own accomodations. I also don’t think it is your bridesmaid’s responsibility to pay for your hotel for the night of the bachelorette. If they offer, that is very generous but I would not expect them to. if you are paying for the hotel for yourself anyways, I would just generously allow the girls to stay there if they choose to. Are they bringing dates to the wedding? Keep in mind some of the girls may prefer to stay in a hotel with their significant others rather than in your room with you. I personally don’t think it is right to ask the girls for money for the hotel to offset your own cost if you are the one who wants them to stay with you.
Post # 7
I’m going to just book a hotel for me and the girls for the night before the wedding and I will pay for it. Thanks for all the input bees!! My girls have been so amazing, I didn’t want to put more on their plates than I needed to 🙂
Krises: I’m not thinking for asking them to chip in to “off set” my own cost. I can afford it, I just didn’t know what etiquette says in this situation. I completely didn’t take their dates into account, yikes! Only one of the girls has a date, the rest are single.
Post # 8
If you can afford it, then pay for the hotel yourself (or with your mom) for both nights. That would be a nice gesture.