Post # 1
HI. I am conflicted here. After days of thinking and depression and crying i have decided I reallly do not want a ‘church’ ceremony! i do not like being the center of attention-so my guy and i agree on having a ceremony on the beach around 11 in the morning and a reception back in my hometown (about an hour and 45 mins away) around 3in the afternoon. here’s the thing – everyone is invited to the ceremony and reception-though we realize most wont come to the ceremony and it will be kept small but lots will come to the reception. is this rude to have it at a location knowing people wont make it..and yet having a reception. And i realize that i will be the center of attention at the larger reception but no formal dancing and nothing more than a simple announcement of our arrival (if that) will be made. Its more casual and walking around greeting people. Not a lot of undue focus on me.
and how would i do the wording of the invites to include the two.
thanks in advance for all your suggestions
Post # 3
I would include a seperate reception card or use your Rsvp for that. Something like: _ out of _ will be witnessing the union. _ out of _ will be celebrating with you later at the Reception. Wording isn’t great but it’s early.
Post # 4
I don’t find it rude. If you’re not concerned with who’s coming to the ceremony, then I don’t think you need to do anything extra. Invite everyone you want and let them decide.
Post # 5
Nah, I don’t think it’s rude. I don’t know where you’re having the wedding, but I know that at least in my area it’s fairly common to have the ceremony and reception in places between 30 minutes and an hour away from each other. They solve this problem the same way you will; by putting a few solid hours between the two.
If people are adamant about witnessing the ceremony, they will suck it up and drive to the beach! If not, everyone will enjoy the reception later. Don’t worry about it, it’s your day.
As for wording, I agree with tksjewelry. I was trying to come up with a less wordy version but nothing is coming to me at the moment. I’ll try to get back to you on that.
Post # 6
thanks a bunch for the support. i am still sooo conflicted. my wedding is in May and I am acting as if I have ALLL the time in the world.
Post # 7
Do what makes you happy, really! I would have loved to have our wedding an hour away (common in my area) at the beach and then come back to the city for our reception, but FILs were saying that many wouldn’t make it/choose not to come then. I am fine with our new location choice, but really, I’d be even more excited to do our beach wedding (not now with our date and all, but still). Do what makes you happy, the people who want to and are able to make the trip will.
Post # 8
the wedding will be in Mexico Beach, Florida-its about 20 minutes outside of Pananma City Beach. Much quieter and nicer, being that beginning March Panama City brings in the Spring Breakers..
I am getting more and more comfortable with this idea. I think the beach will make the prefect setting. and after all, its more about me and him and our love. Not everyone else.and their opinions.
Post # 9
What would be rude is inviting people to the ceremony only (they bring gifts and you don’t feed them). Reception only is totally fine. It’ll also be nice to have a more intimate ceremony, since probably only your close friends and family will come out. I think it sounds great!