House warming shortly after wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

it does seem a bit gift-grabby to me, because the main concept behind your guests giving wedding gifts is to help the new couple establish a household of their own.  A housewarming gift is also given to help the new household get established.  It seems redundant to have two new-home-related gift-giving occasions so close together, and it does seem gift-grabby.

If you really just want to welcome people to your home and want to be sure not to give the impression that you are gift-grabby, you could always throw a party for a different occasion, one for which gifts are not usually given.  Halloween party perhaps?  It’s not that far off, and no one will feel any social pressures to bring a gift, other than perhaps a small hostess gift (bottle of wine, cookies, etc).

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I think it would be fine if you decided to throw a black tie optional dinner party. Just don’t call it a housewarming party. If people want to give gifts, they will, but for a dinner party, all that is really “expected” (and I say that loosely, because it depends on your circle) is a bottle of wine. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would consider it gift-grabby and probably wouldn’t attend. Maybe you could just invite people over for a dinner party and not call it a house warming? Maybe say something about not wanting gifts on the invite?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would just call it a dinner party, not a housewarming. Therefore gifts are not expected.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Agree with the above.  Don’t call it a housewarming.  

 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Housewarmings are gift grabby by nature.  You can invite people over to your home without it being a housewarming. I also don’t think a housewarmining is all that appropriate for a rental to be honest.  

Just have a dinner party, no need to call it a housewarming. 

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