Post # 1
We plan to move into a new apartment together after our weddinng (we don’t live together now). We’re planning to throw a house warming party, but I’m not sure if having it close to the wedding is appropriate. Will this seem like a gift grab?
We’re mostly just excited to host our friends and family in our new home together. We are planning for it to be a fancy dinner party. Black Tie optional.
Do we need to be concerned about waiting a certain amount of time? If so, how long should we wait? Should we indicate that we don’t want gifts? I mean, we aren’t philosophically opposed to gifts, or anything. We would be happy to accept a gift from anyone who wishes to give us one, but we don’t want people to think we’re just throwing a party to get a second gift out of them, either.
Post # 3
it does seem a bit gift-grabby to me, because the main concept behind your guests giving wedding gifts is to help the new couple establish a household of their own. A housewarming gift is also given to help the new household get established. It seems redundant to have two new-home-related gift-giving occasions so close together, and it does seem gift-grabby.
If you really just want to welcome people to your home and want to be sure not to give the impression that you are gift-grabby, you could always throw a party for a different occasion, one for which gifts are not usually given. Halloween party perhaps? It’s not that far off, and no one will feel any social pressures to bring a gift, other than perhaps a small hostess gift (bottle of wine, cookies, etc).
Post # 4
I think it would be fine if you decided to throw a black tie optional dinner party. Just don’t call it a housewarming party. If people want to give gifts, they will, but for a dinner party, all that is really “expected” (and I say that loosely, because it depends on your circle) is a bottle of wine.
Post # 5
I would consider it gift-grabby and probably wouldn’t attend. Maybe you could just invite people over for a dinner party and not call it a house warming? Maybe say something about not wanting gifts on the invite?
Post # 6
I would just call it a dinner party, not a housewarming. Therefore gifts are not expected.
Post # 7
Agree with the above. Don’t call it a housewarming.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone. I don’t know how it didn’t occur to me to just not call it a house warming party. 🙂
Post # 9
Housewarmings are gift grabby by nature. You can invite people over to your home without it being a housewarming. I also don’t think a housewarmining is all that appropriate for a rental to be honest.
Just have a dinner party, no need to call it a housewarming.