Houseguest during wedding

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Would this disappoint you?
    Yes! Not acceptable. : (65 votes)
    61 %
    No : (11 votes)
    10 %
    Maybe. It's not ideal, but what can you do? : (30 votes)
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  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @solidarity:  I would definitley look inot  a hotel.  I am shocked that she isn’t staying in one.  I would feel akward being a houseguest on someone’s wedding night.

    FMIL will be coming into town the week of our wedding.  I told FI she can stay with us until Wednesday and then she has to find a hotel (wedding is Saturday).  I don’t need anyone up my butt right before the wedding but especially not my FMIL.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think it’s rude of her to even accept that offer to stay with you on your wedding night. Very odd!  I’d look into paying for a hotel for either you or her! Even if you are too tired to enjoy any “activities”, you’re still going to want to spend that time alone with each other.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Good grief!  Who would even want to spend the night with a couple on their wedding night?  Awkward!!  Pay for her to get a hotel room somewhere if she can’t afford it herself.  Ugh, that would not be cool with me, at all.

    Post # 7
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We’re having not one but three (count em!) houseguests.  I’m not thrilled, but what can you do?  What it comes right down to is some of our friends are not that well off, or they are travelling alone to a big city for the first time.  Their comfort is worth it to me, since I hardly ever see them but I see my fiance every day for the rest of my life.  It is a lot of stress, but I’m hoping it’s fun bonding time too.  Or maybe that’s just what I tell myself and it’s going to majorly suck!

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @solidarity:  You’re alot nicer than me: I wouldn’t have extended the offer that night of all nights in the first place. I hope a hotel situation presents itself for you!

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would think a friend or family member could step up to the plate and offer to host her for you.

    Post # 12
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I’m sorry, but I don’t care if she’s flying from outer space, she shouldn’t be staying with you two. Let her get a room somewhere. 

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @solidarity:  Oh man, I’m sorry this is happening to you. I would gift her a hotel room and enjoy your night together alone…because, you just got married! 

    Do not even think about sharing your first night as hubby and wife with a guest in the house. No way. 

    Either get her a hotel room, or splurge a little more and get a spa night for you two in a fancy hotel. 

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Yeah, it would be super awkward to have somebody in my house on my wedding night.  I can’t imagine coming home exhausted and exhilarated and ready to spend my first night with my new husband but oh wait his friend is there.  Granted, FI and I won’t be in that situation (we’re getting married in my hometown, and will be staying with my parents every night EXCEPT the wedding night, which we’ll spend in a hotel), but if we were, I would pay for her hotel just to get her out of our house.  Or see if mutual friends wouldn’t mind sharing their hotel room with her, even if it’s just for the one night.

    Post # 15
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    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Can some of your friends host her for a couple of nights?

    My friend and her husband are flying in from S America for our wedding.  I’m planning to ask some friends in the area if they can host them for 2 nights. 

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Either find a hotel for yourselves, or find one for her.  We didn’t do much the night of the wedding, but it felt special just lying in bed together, alone, knowing we were married.  And the next morning, just knowing it was us and we could do WHATEVER without being held accountable to anyone else…that’s something I am so grateful for.

     

    @solidarity:  

    @daynalenore:  Do the two of you have other friends in the area those people could stay with for that ONE night?  

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