Post # 1
I hadn’t really expected to feel this way, but I do. One of FI’s friends is flying in from across the country to attend our wedding. She’s coming in the day before the wedding and leaving the day after. We’d planned to stay at home on our wedding night. Now it looks like we won’t be alone.
I’d never ask that she stay somewhere else. She’s flying in from pretty far away and the airfare isn’t cheap! Also, my FI is very excited that she’s coming. He doesn’t have a ton of close friends.
I expect that we’ll both be way too tired to engage in any intimate activities, but I had wanted to be alone on our wedding night anyway. I’m going to look into staying at a hotel on the night of our wedding and hope it’s not too pricey.
The added stress of having a houseguest during that time doesn’t make me particularly happy, but I’m betting that she’ll be helpful. Just trying to make the best of it!
Post # 3
@solidarity: I would definitley look inot a hotel. I am shocked that she isn’t staying in one. I would feel akward being a houseguest on someone’s wedding night.
FMIL will be coming into town the week of our wedding. I told FI she can stay with us until Wednesday and then she has to find a hotel (wedding is Saturday). I don’t need anyone up my butt right before the wedding but especially not my FMIL.
Post # 4
@MrsM914: Yeah, I am a little shocked, too. But, I do understand. She has two small children, single mom, in school working just part-time. So I don’t hold it against her. We’d much rather have her here than not at all!
I just looked into a nearby hotel and it’s not terribly expensive. So we’ll see.
Post # 5
I think it’s rude of her to even accept that offer to stay with you on your wedding night. Very odd! I’d look into paying for a hotel for either you or her! Even if you are too tired to enjoy any “activities”, you’re still going to want to spend that time alone with each other.
Post # 6
Good grief! Who would even want to spend the night with a couple on their wedding night? Awkward!! Pay for her to get a hotel room somewhere if she can’t afford it herself. Ugh, that would not be cool with me, at all.
Post # 7
We’re having not one but three (count em!) houseguests. I’m not thrilled, but what can you do? What it comes right down to is some of our friends are not that well off, or they are travelling alone to a big city for the first time. Their comfort is worth it to me, since I hardly ever see them but I see my fiance every day for the rest of my life. It is a lot of stress, but I’m hoping it’s fun bonding time too. Or maybe that’s just what I tell myself and it’s going to majorly suck!
Post # 8
Well, I would certainly feel weird about it! But, like I said, it’s a stretch for her to come anyway.
Post # 9
@solidarity: You’re alot nicer than me: I wouldn’t have extended the offer that night of all nights in the first place. I hope a hotel situation presents itself for you!
Post # 10
@daynalenore: Yeah, I get it! That’s what I’m telling myself, too. We’ll have our whole lives together and nevermind what society says.
Post # 11
I would think a friend or family member could step up to the plate and offer to host her for you.
Post # 12
I’m sorry, but I don’t care if she’s flying from outer space, she shouldn’t be staying with you two. Let her get a room somewhere.
Post # 13
@solidarity: Oh man, I’m sorry this is happening to you. I would gift her a hotel room and enjoy your night together alone…because, you just got married!
Do not even think about sharing your first night as hubby and wife with a guest in the house. No way.
Either get her a hotel room, or splurge a little more and get a spa night for you two in a fancy hotel.
Post # 14
Yeah, it would be super awkward to have somebody in my house on my wedding night. I can’t imagine coming home exhausted and exhilarated and ready to spend my first night with my new husband but oh wait his friend is there. Granted, FI and I won’t be in that situation (we’re getting married in my hometown, and will be staying with my parents every night EXCEPT the wedding night, which we’ll spend in a hotel), but if we were, I would pay for her hotel just to get her out of our house. Or see if mutual friends wouldn’t mind sharing their hotel room with her, even if it’s just for the one night.
Post # 15
Can some of your friends host her for a couple of nights?
My friend and her husband are flying in from S America for our wedding. I’m planning to ask some friends in the area if they can host them for 2 nights.
Post # 16
Either find a hotel for yourselves, or find one for her. We didn’t do much the night of the wedding, but it felt special just lying in bed together, alone, knowing we were married. And the next morning, just knowing it was us and we could do WHATEVER without being held accountable to anyone else…that’s something I am so grateful for.
@daynalenore: Do the two of you have other friends in the area those people could stay with for that ONE night?