Post # 1
Has anyone had out of town family staying with them the week of the wedding? My fi’s family is from out of town as is one of his cousins and much of my family (my sister, etc). My fi automatically planned for his parents to stay with us which I had no problem with. However, he’s also invited his brother (a groomsman) and his cousin and family (he’s a groomsman also and his daughter is our junior bridesmaid) to stay with us…a total of SIX people. My sister is making all our flowers (as her gift to us) and driving from 6 hours away. I mentioned that my sister would be here and he acted as if since his family is traveling a further distance AND they are standing up in the wedding they were entitled to stay at our house…which really ticked me off since my sister is going through all the trouble to make all the flowers, etc. My mom passed away this past November and my sister is older than I am so she’s kind of become my sounding board since I don’t have my mom to talk to… I don’t have an issue with his parents staying here…I love them. But I’m really stressing about his brother (who keeps mentioning that he’s going to invite this friend or that friend to come hang out for the wedding?!?!?!) and his cousin and family being here. I know that there will be last minute things that need to be done and when I have company staying from out of town I am always very anxious about making sure they have meals prepared, etc. I know that I”ll probably have lots of errands to run, etc and I feel funny either leaving everyone at home while I run errands or expecting them to traipse around with me from place to place, especially since they probably won’t have vehicles either. So how did you all deal with the situation? He’s angry now and keeps saying that he’s going to tell his family that I said they are not welcome here. Ugh…I give up.
Post # 3
I have lots of out of town guests from his side coming too so I kinda understand. How far away is his family coming from?
Post # 4
They are going to be your in laws so you have to play nice. And if they are traveling it does get expensive and I can understand him trying to help with that and spend time with them. I would tell you fiance in a calm voice that you are stressed with wedding stuff and especially that week of. You would love to be a great host but you can’t. He will have to take responsibility with his family and worry about cooking, cleaning and such. Maybe get a hotel room for just you the night before so you can unwind by yourself.
Post # 5
I could never deal with that! Lol. But seriously, your sister is one person and he shouldn’t be upset that you want her to stay with you.
Post # 6
DH lived with his aunt (a single woman) and they had a family of 5 stay with them the week before the wedding! It was squishy, but they are wonderful people and it worked out really nicely for everyone. DH’s family took them on lots of trips to see the sights near us, and they helped out a lot with all the last minute DIY I had to do. Actually, I don’t think I could’ve gotten it done without them!
Post # 7
Thanks Bees. His family (parents and brother) are traveling about 1100 miles. His cousin and my sister actually live not too far from each other – about a 6 hour drive. I am going to try to talk to him and mention that I’ll need his help that week to keep things running smoothly around here….or we’ll need to plan lots of carry out meals!! I have been thinking about booking a room at the hotel where we have a wedding block to clear my head and relax a bit that night…but we are hosting to rehearsal dinner at our house so I”ll end up there cleaning up I have a feeling. We shall see! Thanks again.