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what do you do with old jewellry given by an ex
I have diamond earrings
do I keep them sell, them or gvie them away
I kept all the photos and letters and stuff like that, but I think jewelry is a whole other ball game. Personally, I'd get rid of those.
I disagree. I think that letters and photos are much more personal that a bracelet or a pair of earrings. Keep the jewelry. they were a gift. or trade them in if you want and get yourself something new.
If that jewelry constantly reminds you of the ex then trade them in for something new! if y9u genuinely love the piece of jewelry I say keep it.
keep. It was a gift. Don't necessarily broadcast the fact they they are from your ex though. My ex was very wealthy and very generous so I have all sorts of jewelry, watches and other expensive things from him that i love. No way I'm getting rid of any of that.
I have a diamond necklace given to me by an ex about 6 years ago. I never wear it, but I've been saving it planning on eventually giving it to my daughter if I have one.
If you can wear them with no ill feelings, keep them, you'll never get what they're worth if you sell them. You can always take the diamonds and make a pendant (and sell the gold). Or, keep to give to a future daughter (only if no ill feelings and again because you'll never get full value).
I have a pink sapphire ring and pendant from an ex and I kept them because I love jewelry and after we broke up, they were already part of my collection, so it didn't really mean anything to me anymore.
Right now I'm wearing a necklace given to me by an ex. This is the first time I've worn it since I've been engaged, and I was sitting here trying to remember who had given it to me. All of a sudden I realized it was from a guy I dated long ago. I figure if I had to strain to remember who it was from there was essentially no sentimental value attached, and so I feel free to wear this little pearl necklace!
I have two rings, however, from guys who intended them as a promise or engagement ring. I should get rid of those, since I will never ever wear them! I tried to give them back at the time, but both guys refused.
I'd say keep it. If it bothers you to wear them you can have them made into something else...necklace, ring, etc.
I would keep them (they are DIAMONDS after all!) if you love them. If you don't really wear them, sell them?
I keep old jewelry if I still like it (I've sold a diamond heart pendant, though). Diamond earrings I would keep if I wanted to wear them.
hmm I have bad memories whenever I see them but they are valuable hmmm
If you like them, keep them! I honestly don't think it matters (unless it was an engagement ring or something - in that case - sell it & buy yourself something else! heehee!)
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I <3 NY - If you have bad memories about the piece of jewlery, would you be opposed to removing the diamonds and having your fiance help you chose a necklace or new ring setting for them? If changing the setting won't change your emotions, maybe just cut your loses and sell them back to a jeweler? The value may not be what you thought it would be, but sometimes it's nice to cleanse yourself of the past.
true; yeah I just sold some orphaned earrings for about $120 for extra cash; went back and sold chains that were broken for another $15
wonder what I can get for diamonds
If you have bad memories, definitely turn them into something else. You shouldn't pass up diamonds, but they're not worth anything to you in their current form. Go make a new memory with your FI and make a new piece of jewelry to go with it :)
I have several diamonds worth a decent amount that I wanted to get rid of. Unfortunately, because of this economy lots of people are dumping their jewelry for extra cash so the jeweler told me this is a bad time to resell. Unless you need the money, I would a) keep them and continue to wear if your fiance is okay with it b) wait and resell when the economy recovers or c) hold on to them and give them to your children.
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you could go to the jewelry store and turn them in for different ones ....
Bad memories definitely means they should go, or maybe even re-gift them to someone who doesnt know ;) However, just because they were a gift from an ex doesn't mean you HAVE to ditch them, unless the FI would feel better. My husband has gifts from his ex gf's around the house because he likes the objects and it would be a waste to throw it out (especially the cologne). I'm fairly certain he has no sentimental value attached to them because they were from ex gf's, he just likes them. It doesnt make me think of them when is see it, or smell his cologne. I'm 100% ok with it!
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ok I think I'm just going to sell them; too much negative energy attached; when I see them a frown comes to my face and sad memories come flooding back
little sad losing a gift even if there are bad memories; I'm so undecisive sometimes; but the sadness outweighs the joy of the actual diamonds
I think you're making the right choice. With gifts, I think there's no harm in keeping them so long as you feel neutral about them. It's the stuff that stirs up bad memories (or memories that could make your current love feel uncomfortable), that needs to be gotten rid of!
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I have a beautiful bracelet/necklace set that my ex gave me, and it's quite expensive. Personally, they're not in my taste and I haven't worn them since the breakup, so I tried to sell them....but my FI doesn't want me to!
I think if FI doesn't mind them and you don't feel uncomfortable about it, keep them. But if you really want them to go away, sell them. My suggestion: sell them and buy yourself something new and pretty. Turn those bad memories into something good!
Interesting discussion! I decided at a certain point that I did not want to keep the engagement ring from my ex, even though it was originally a resetting of a stone I inherited from my grandmother. I had always been nervous about wearing it, because the stone was so large I figured someone might attack me to get it. And I figured there was no way I was going to wear it again. I therefore decided to sell it.
However, when I told my son this, he immediately asked to buy it from me. He pointed out that although the ring was a reminder to me of a relationship that ended, to him it was a reminder of the relationship that produced him.
I therefore made some inquiries as to the price I could get for it elsewhere, but ended up selling it to my son. He is planning to give it to his fiancee when he gets engaged.
i gave mines to my mom, and i let another cousin wear a pair for a wedding she was in and i never asked for them back. and when she insisted, i told if she liked them, she could keep them.
if you think you could make some nice money off them, i would say sell them (not pawn.) yet if its something you can easily part with, give them to a sister or friend that you know will cherish them.
2d bride
aw thats so sweet that your son is sentimental enough to want your grandmother's diamond
aw sweet story
If you have bad memories when you look at them and they are valuable, then I say sell them!
I just saw an ad on TV for this site called OutOfYourLife.com. You get this cute box sent you that says "Your better off" on the inside for you to send all your old jewelry from your exes and then they send you the money. It is kinda like those cash for gold companies but they buy all kinds of jewelry.
I still have the diamond necklace I got from my ex and I just can't bring myself to sell it. I have never worn it but I love it and it is a piece I have always wanted. I think your decision all depends on how the piece of jewelry makes you feel and how your future spouse feels about it.
Mandy Butler
The Future Mrs. Medeiros
I'm really not a big jewelry fan so I wouldn't think twice about selling! Unfortunately none of the old jewelry I got as gifts were worth much lol.
If you are a jewelry fan, you could get it melted down and reset the diamonds but really in today's age,I say cash 'em in!
I'm wearing a necklace right now that was given to me by an ex. It causes no ill will in me whatsoever, but neither do thoughts of our relationship. It's was a gift for Christmas one year. He had good taste in jewelry for me. I see no reason to get rid of it when it's not hurting me. But if your jewelry is hurting you, then you should get rid of it.
My ex gave me the best pearl earrings. I may wear them on my wedding day! HAHAH!
missie
honestly any thingmy exhusband gave me he wouldnt be able to pick out in a crowd as soomething he purchased for me. if HE wouldnt be able to say HEY i bought those for you if he saw you, then they don't count as thoughtful gifts and then in turn arent sentamental things..
2nd bride
in my opinion;..the diamond was a family heirloom...and well the diamond should have been held onto and offered to someone in your lineage obviously it was meant to be kept in your family and that is why it was reset into a ring for you. the ring itself heck it wouldnt matter at all if it got melted down to pay to have it reset for your son's fiance' It was so nice of either your mom or grandmother to pass it down the line it would have been such a loss to sell that. I have been divorced for 5 years and counting now and have 2 sets of rings(engagemtn and wedding bands) and I have 4 sons...i plan to give each of the boys 1 of the rings from the marriage that produced them
I would keep them for sure, but like someone said if they remind you of your ex when you wear them, specially if you think warm fuzzy feelings I would sell them. Otherwise they were a gift and I would keep them because diamond earrings are so practical.
I think that depends on you and the relationship and how you feel towards it/them. Personally, I wouldn't wear earrings or jewlery from an ex but it all depends on you
HAHA, i have teeny tiny diamond studs given to me by my first boyfriend when I was 18. So uh, 5 years ago. I kept them. Why? Cuz mom said, "honey, diamonds are diamonds" and they really are tiny--only 1/6th carat each or something. I wear them every day in my second hole, and honestly, I always forget that they were a gift from him. I'm just so apathetic about him in general...and they're just practical. It's not like I wane for him or anything. To me, they've just become earrings.
I say sell them! I just sold a diamond and white gold promise ring my ex had given me! I listed it on eBay for a starting price of $0.65 because that's how much the listing cost-it was FUN! Plus, it gave someone else the opportunity to buy something nice for their loved one without breaking the bank! AND, Specialist Sullivan was extremely happy about it :) haha it was great.
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