Post # 1
I don’t get married until November, but already I am crying on a regular basis whenever I think about the first dance, walking down the aisle, etc.
I also cry a lot when I’m watching TV and people get married or break up or die…and I’m not a crier usually. I also can’t stop thinking about my dead grandparents not being there…and then…I CRY! On my wedding day, I don’t want to be behaving hysterically!
I am so excited, but I don’t think I’m going to be able to keep from crying and everyone is going to think I’m sad! But I’m not! I’m just emotional!
Anyone else? Please tell me I’m not alone. Any techniques to stop the tears?
Post # 3
I think if you maybe start preparing yourself ahead of time it will help. If you grandparents can’t attend, then think about how you will honor them at the ceremony. Think of how beautiful it will be instead of missing them.
Post # 4
Like to the songs over and over again. If you do this you will desesitize yourself. And keep watching those shows as often as you can. That’s my only advice as I am trying to do that with our wedding songs since they all seem to make me cry.
And I learned a great tip. Put your tongue on the roof of your mouth, it can actually stop you from crying.
Post # 5
I am going to have their wedding picture on the guestbook table so my family can remember them on the day. =) i love them, and feel like they are always with me.
great. i’m crying. lol.
am i going crazy? i don’t feel crazy or even sad. but i just wanna cry and cry.
Post # 6
wow that touge idea just worked!! wow. that’s a good one!
Post # 7
I am emotional naturally… even in a perfectly fine job review, I would get teary eyed. I was told the tongue trick as well as the object naming trick.
I walk into the room and I start naming things in my head. “Chair”, “Table”, “Hand shake”, etc.
I will probably do this on the wedding day! “Bouquet”, “Door”, “Handle”, “Holy water”, etc.
Sometimes I go through things REALLY fast and it offers enough distraction to bring me back to calm so I can pay attention to the rest of what is going on.
Good luck!! I know it will go smoothly if you start practicing now.
Post # 8
Okay but what about during the ceremony…particularly when its time to read the vows? I am terrified that I won’t even be able to speak clearly enough or at all. Anyone else worried about crying while reciting their vows? any suggestions from those more experienced? maybe just water proof mascara 😉
Post # 9
I’m going to wear fake lashes because of the crying issue and i wear contacts, so don’t want any eye issues.
seriously though, when it’s time to say my vows, i’m going to bawl like a baby!! i guess practice is the best way.
Post # 10
I sobbed my way through my best friend’s ENTIRE wedding AND reception, so I’m fully aware there will be no way around it for my own. I don’t think anyone is going to think you’re sad. People cry at weddings, and if you’re a crier like me, those closest to you are already prepared for it. I wouldn’t worry (except to make sure you do waterproof makeup!)
Post # 11
I bawled my eyes out during my ceremony. Well the first 10 min anyways. Sobbed during my vows. Had issues getting them out. Eveyrone laughed…’Oh how sweet, she’s so in love’. Gag. Oh well! no big deal. It’s me…i’m a cryer.
Thank goodness for makeup artists and waterproof makeup! I looked fine =]
Post # 12
You might be surprised. This is no guarantee of course, but I didn’t get teary until a ways into the ceremony and even then I could still speak clearly. (My mental commentary was too busy running with “holy crap I can’t believe this is happening!”) I was expecting much worse. Hope for the best and prepare for the worst I guess. 🙂
And I really hope I remember that tongue on the roof of my mouth trick the next time I need it. For some reason I tend to tear up during job interviews. No idea why but I really don’t appreciate it!
Post # 13
How sweet! I know how you feel. As I attempted to read my vows to one of my bridesmaid I started crying by the second word. I don’t know what I’m going to do either. I think I may need to just read them over and over. Or the tongue trick!
Post # 14
I feel like I’m the same as you – I cry thinking about things like that and when other people are getting married, but I don’t know I feel like when it’s actually happening I’ll be okay in the moment. If FI starts crying though I’ll lose it.
Post # 15
OOoow-I am a crier too. I will have to remember that tongue trick too. Last year my mom died just 1 month before my only daughter got married. When I pulled my car into the driveway of the place -I honestly felt BOTH of my parents’ presence surrounding me!!! Wow!!! “Knowing” they were there for my daughter’s wedding was really great, and having other family members there in person really helped me to focus on the happy part of the wedding and not the sad part.
Post # 16
I don’t know if it will be possible for you, but this ended up working for me: I’m normally a huge crier- I can’t watch Olymic commercials or a puppy or a Visa ad or anything like that without tearing up. I was crying as I walked down the aisle, which made my husband cry, but our pastor started out our ceremony with a deadpan, normal voiced “Marriage. Marriage is what brings us together today.” from the Princess Bride. Everyone cracked up, especially because he didn’t say it like the Princess Bride clergyman but in a regular voice instead. Because we were able to get that laugh in, I felt better for the rest of the time. I only got choked up again when we said our vows, and even then I got by.
You’ll be fine! Even if you cry, it will be endearing, not embarrassing.