Post # 1
Next week, at this time, I’ll be arriving in Edinburgh on my first vacation in like…oh, jeez. Five, six years? I am travelling alone and meeting my family once there – FI has to work and can’t get the time off.
I’m really excited, but I’m also really scared.
I’ve been really bloated and gross feeling all week, which tends to be my reaction when I get nervous. I have a 7 hour flight followed by a 4 hour wait and then a 2 hour flight, and then I have to find my way to the hotel. I’m also a nervous pee-r (TMI? LOL) so I’m starting to get legit worried about this flight. I have issues sitting still, what if I need to go to the bathroom and can’t, will I be bloated and uncomfortable for the entire flight, etc.
Yeah, I’m freaking out.
I got some Ativan prescribed for the flight but I’ve never taken it before, and now I’m scared it won’t help and I’ll have a panic attack which will be embarrassing and awful, or it will work too well and I’ll be knocked out the entire time which makes me nervous because I’m travelling solo.
Any advice? I know it will be fine once I am ON the flight, I’m always just anxious BEFORE these things and I get really freaked out. I’m going to try to be calm and meditate when I am waiting in the airport before I go.
Post # 3
((HUGS)) I’m so sorry you’re so nervous, poor baby! I’m one of those people who actually really enjoys flying but I know a lot of people don’t. I think you’ve covered your bases really well with preparing yourself for the stress. Mainly my issue with flying is just the airport annoyances/delays but I love the actual flying part of it once I’m on the plane. I would definitely recommend having some reading material with you to keep you distracted and keep in mind the cut-off for electronic devices, so have paper copies of stuff as well. If a sedative or anti-anxiety med will help take that, too. In my case, I’d be afraid I’d be so relaxed I wouldn’t be able to “sprint through the airport” quickly enough (that I’ve had to do so many times) but it may help calm your nerves. Oh yeah, wear comfy shoes just in case you do have to sprint, lol. Keep telling yourself everything will be just fine. I wish you all the best and hope everything goes smoothly for you.
Post # 4
Oh bless you! Are you flying to Manchester/London and then connecting Edinburgh? Where are you flying from?
I think the first thing to try and help is to establish why you’re nervous. Is it because you’re afraid of flying? Or being on your own? Or because you’re worried about the little things (peeing, needing to stand up etc)?
I find the best thing to do is to come well stocked with things to keep busy! Start reading a good book NOW so that by the time you get to the airport you’ll (hopefully) want to keep reading. Get there early, familiarise yourself with the airport, find the toilets, and go get something to eat. I find I like wandering around the airport first without rushing. Rushing makes me stressed. And when I sit down, I sit right in front of a departures board so I know when I can head to the gate!
Are you connecting with the same airline? It might be worth double checking what happens with your luggage. Did you book the flight in one go? Or book them seperately? Because I know one person who booked seperately and didn’t collect their bags after their first flight and left them! Eep!
As for peeing on the plane – there’s usually a little bit of a queue. Once you think you need to be, get up so that you have enough time to wait. You can walk up and down too, if you want to stretch your legs. Maybe find some in flight exercises?
My best tip comfort-wise, is to wear leggings. Oh my goodness, leggings help me so much if i’m feeling bleugh and bloated. And remember it gets cool on flights so bring something to snuggle in (and some toasty socks!)
Post # 5
@Sunfire: I used to enjoy flying, but there was a period where I was going on at least 2 flights per year, so I was a lot more familiar with it then than I am now. Thank you for the advice! Believe it or not, I was actually considering wearing these too big Birks I have because I thought they’d be comfortable. Now that you’ve mentioned it, they will literally be hell if I have to book it through an airport! I’ll definitely reconsider that choice 🙂
@lookingglass: Flying to London from Toronto, separate flight/airline for the flight to Edinburgh. Hopefully I won’t forget my luggage!! I tried to give myself enough time between flights to check out the airport, familiarize myself and calm myself down so hopefully I won’t be running to catch anything and I’ll be able to do things in an orderly fashion. I’m not scared of flying, I always just get anxious about the little things. I’m also a wee bit claustrophobic, but I think I can deal with that…maybe by promptly falling asleep once I’m on the plane haha. The book advice is great, I never considered starting it a bit in advance so that I’m hooked. And leggings are excellent advice! I’ve been fretting about what to wear since I’m feeling so gross. Thank you so much!
Post # 6
Just a hint/tip about when you land in the UK… you will have to fill out a small form about the reason for your trip, and include how long you will be staying AND where you will be staying. I didn’t know this and ended up going into a little bit of panic mode trying to go through my carry on for the address for our hotel!
Post # 7
Well you seem to have gotten all the good info you’ll need so I’ll just say hi!! You’ll enjoy Scotland, just think of that to get you through! 🙂
Post # 8
Oh bless you…I know how it feels…
A few tips;
Complete all paper work(for entering the UK) prior to the flight so you don’t have to think about that.
Where are you seated in the plane during the longer flight?
If possible ask for an aisle seat so that you easily can access the restroom without having to climb over other passengers.
Do not drink coffee or coke during the flight.
I have noticed that the caffeine really just makes me more nervous.
Do you have an MP3 player?
If you do, bring it along with a brand new audiobook.
I can’t focus on reading books or magazines during a flight but an audiobook takes my mind off things and helps me relax.
Best of look to you!
Post # 9
@Miss Smurf: Ah, thanks for the heads up!
@Mrs.SleepyKitty: Hi! and thanks 🙂 I’m going to try the whole visualize the end result thing to calm myself the heck down. I just wish I could teleport places. My life would be soooo much easier LOL
Post # 10
@MrsJoyful80: I did ask for an aisle seat, but I booked through a third party so HOPEFULLY the airline honours it. Excellent advice about the caffeine avoidance, and YES! I will definitely take the advice for an audiobook. I have a hard time focusing my attention on print, but I always try to make it work. Honestly never considered my other options. Thank you!
Post # 11
I think you can count on the Ativan working without knocking you out, especially if you don’t take it regularly! I have a friend who takes it as needed for severe anxiety, only when she has an attack (maybe like once every few months) and she is able to go to work and function normally.
Post # 12
In one of my psychology courses my professor discussed the flying type of panic disorder. People who fly several times a year should get exposure therapy where a therapist helps the person get over their flying anxiety gradually. But most people don’t fly very much. She said that those who don’t fly often but have a fear of flying should get one or two anti anxiety pills for the trip and that will take care of it no problem. You should be fine. Good luck on your trip and try to enjoy it! 🙂
Post # 13
@phillygirl629: Excellent, thanks! I don’t know anyone who has ever tried it before, so when the doctor said it might make me fall asleep I was like “Um, WHAT?” haha.
@sunkisthappy: Phew – so hopefully the Ativan will work for me then! I definitely don’t fly often enough for any type of therapy, and even if I did…my flight is less than a week away so I’d probably be in trouble :). Thanks, and I’m sure I will enjoy the trip…just need to work through this anxiety first!
Post # 14
One word: Valium.
I got it just for our flight to our vacation this past year and it did a world of good for me. I was able to take it before boarding and it kept me calm and just sleepy enough that I could sleep or just rest without feeling that edge of panic. Definately talk to a doctor, they understand!