Post # 1
Lifetime sleep disorder sufferer here…
Once I get to sleep I am GRAVY, but it’s the getting to sleep that is the issue. I have delayed sleep phase disorder, for which I take prescription melatonin and will likely need to take it for the rest of my life. So I have to be very mindful of light, caffeine, routine, my meds etc. Now though it is a WEEK to my wedding and I cannot sleep anymore. I slept 5 hours on Saturday and 4 hours on Sunday. Yesterday, I took 2 sleeping pills, and though I slept, I felt like absolute HELL today. Basically like a hangover combined with PMS. As I type this I am so STRESSED about the wedding that I feel like vomiting. Our wedding planner quit his job a few weeks back so we are behind with some stuff and when I try to sleep all I can think about is the wedding. Even though I write it down as it occurs to me, the thoughts just keep coming.
I’d love to have a bath, but we have no bath in our house. Should I start drinking? I don’t drink that often, but maybe a glass or two a night is the way to go?
Also, most important of all what should I do the night before the actual wedding? I have to get up early on the day of the wedding unfortunately. 🙁 My mother says maybe I should try taking 1 sleeping pill instead of two. Thoughts?
Post # 3
I would NOT drink, you will not sleep as soundly and it could make you puffy and bloated. If you can afford it, the night before the wedding, get an in-home massage in only candle light so when you are done, all you have to do is slide into bed.
In the mean time, try decaf teas, deligating work to others, mediating, easy yoga (in very little light), and lavendar scents.
Post # 4
@Bainise2013: I was still on my half marathon training schedule when our wedding happened, so I was going to bed at 10 or 11 and waking up at 3:45am.
I definitely had a couple of drinks from the Wednesday night before our wedding until our wedding night!
Post # 5
Do you work out? That helps with sleep issues sometimes. Have you tried Sleepytime tea (Celestial Seasonings)? I started drinking that lately and I really like it. Are you taking time to wind down at night? I give myself about an hour before lights out to read, relax, have some tea, and get settled in for the night.
Post # 6
@Bainise2013: Can you see your doc really quick? Maybe they could prescribe you something for a few days.
Post # 7
@Bainise2013: I would try some decaffinated sleeptime teas. Also lavendar has a very calming effect. I have some lavendar lotion I use to just relax me. Even though you don’t have a bath, a shower can still be very relaxing. Put on some music, some candles, and just stand under the warm water.
I advise you not to drink though. To mix that with pills is bad for one, but also it can make you bloated the next day. I just wouldn’t do it this close to the wedding.
Post # 8
Personally a big fatty works for me. There are some nutritional and herbal sleep aids out there though.
Post # 9
No alcohol! Don’t do it! It might just be me getting old, but a drink or two will make me feel really drowsy at first, but it ends up ruining my sleep later on.
Some things that have helped me: a hot shower an hour or two before bedtime is helpful- something about the lowering of your body temperature after the bath/shower cues your body to get ready to sleep. And I know it’s hard, but cutting out screen time (phone, computer, tv, etc) an hour prior to going to bed…
I used to pretty much rely on sleeping pills- so I know how awful they can make you feel afterwards. Hangover combined with PMS is the perfect description. Defintely not the way you want to be on your wedding day!
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@trueblue14: HA! Gosh if it were legal here all of my sleep problems would go away and I would never have a hangover!
Post # 11
PSG tech here
Have you done any CBT or other interventions for this sleep disorder?
I would not start playing with your meds this close to the event. Have they ever tried zopiclone or benzodiazapines? I’m sure with this particular SD melatonin is something they’re going to have to implement long term, but it does lose it’s efficacy as a supplement over time. I have never heard of RX melatonin though, so I’m not familiar with how that’s used as compared to normal supplementary melatonin.
There may be other things like sleep hygiene training and other things you can do, like managing the racing thoughts and night time anxiety.
Alcohol is a stimulant, don’t take that to sleep.
Have they ruled out RLS or anxiety as a cause of the delayed sleep onset? I’m wondering if your diagnosis was made by a sleep physican or a GP.
Post # 12
I think one or two glasses would definitely help me sleep. However, it does indeed bloat me sometimes. So I don’t want to do that. Sadly, I have nobody to delegate to. My mother has cancer, bridesmaid 1 has mental health issues, bridesmaid 2 has a very young child and bdsmaid 3 is away for a short while. Bdsmaid 3 has been amazing actually, but she has been my only help.
I used to cycle regulatly, but had to stop as it caused me to develop bladder infections. I’m looking into fixing that in a variety of ways, but it means that it is out for now. I’ve started walking a lot though, but it really isn’t as good an outlet as biking. 🙁 I plan to go get some engrossing fiction tomorrow, as I am currently running low and I normally read before bed.
@LilRhodyGem: Doc gave me sleeping pills and xanax for travelling. I wonder should I take xanax for sleep issues?
@megz06: Yes, I don’t want to bloat. Will use some lavender tonight. I used to use it all the time.
@trueblue14: Too much of a good girl to take something illegal. Plus, I wouldn’t know where to get it TBH.
@HappySky7: What is a PSG tech?
I have not done CBT, because anxiety is never my sleep issue or TBH my issue generally. I’m normally a “it will be fine” solution oriented person who doesn’t underrstand chronic worriers, which sadly I have now turned into . Just this wedding has made me anxious this week. Melatonin is rx in my country. You are right that is is less strong than it was in me, but it’s the only med or supplement shown to be effective in studies. After all (aside from wedding week), I have no issues sleeping if I am allowed to sleep at my body clock’s time. Changing bulbs to mimic candlelight has actually cured DSPD in some cases too, so I am going to try that after the wedding.
I’m definitely not anxious normally. My endo made the diagnosis. I’d love to have a sleep study but was told I did’t need one.
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@Bainise2013: my husband has a xanax prescription that he rarely uses, and a really hard time going to sleep until the early morning. Once in a while he takes a xanax to help him relax and get to sleep at an earlier hour. His doc said that’s fine to use as a sleep aid on occasion as long as you don’t do it every night… So you might try that, since you have some already. Good luck!
Post # 14
@Bainise2013: Polysomnography tech. We run the diagnostic tests for sleep disorders.
The way you are counting hours of sleep is suggestive of anxiety and negative thought patterns regarding sleep. That is something we treat with CBT here. The fact that you are worried about how your sleep is going to be and how it’s going to effect you in advance is suggestive of that. If you tend to lie in bed and start getting “racing thoughts” like omg I only have 5 hours to sleep I’m going to be so tired tomorrow I have so much to do It’s only 2 weeks until the wedding omg I only have 4 hours if I fall asleep right now…
Do you check the clock overnight?
Where are you that they only rx melatonin? What dose are you taking? Xanax or alprazolam is a benzodiazapine. It will help you fall asleep faster BUT it can leave you with a hung over feeling. It’s supposed to have a short half life though.
Do you have any support while you’re coping with your mothers illness? Have you considered counseling for stress management?
And no, don’t try weed for sleep. It will shorten your sleep onset latency, but lower your overall quality of sleep as it causes alpha intrusions and a lower arousal threshold.
As for melatonin being the only effective sleep aid… no. There are many medications used as sleep aids. Zopiclone for example.
Post # 15
Wow, what an interesting job!
I only counted hours of sleep so as to illustrate my point for the post and to explain that I need to sleep for the next week. I was however very aware of Sunday night’s poor sleep because I nearly fell over a few times in the supermarket. I also couldn’t do my work properly. I actually don’t really worry about how it’s going to affect me as I lie in bed trying to sleep. It’s the next afternoon where it really hits me and then I feel nauseated, dangerously clumsy, cannot concentrate etc.
At the moment it’s more like “Hmm… did I tell wedding planner about Sarah’s allergy; better put that song on the playlist; need to buy that nail polish tomorrow etc”. I’m not even mostly worrying: just thinking about this, that and the other.
I learned many years ago not to check the clock and to get out of bed and read after a while.
I’d rather not say where I am that they rx it. However, feel free to pm if you are curious. 🙂 I am on a very high dose of 10mg and it normally does help. It has set my clock back by two hours. However, I normally am not worried about anything. Basically there are two completely separate issues: I have DPSD, for which there is basically no cure, but I have improved a LOT by taking melatonin; and then this week I have tempoary insomnia.
I agree that xanax is a better idea for sleep. I don’t have many pills of it though, as it is only for long haul flight.
My stress levels will be okay after wedding. 🙂
My FI is my support. Sadly, my mother has had cancer for 10 years, so am kinda used to it.
I defintiely will not try weed as a) it;s illegal and b) I would’t even know where to get it.
Post # 16
@Bainise2013: My honest opinion is that there are some unresolved issues that could be potentially improved upon in terms of managing your sleep. That being said, I’m not a doctor. I really hope you find something that works. I started going to bed earlier leading up to the wedding and use distraction techniques for racing / thinking about random stuff thoughts that mess with my sleep.
Good luck 🙂