How and what did you decide?

posted 3 years ago in Names
  • poll: What did you/will you do with your last name as a married woman?
    keep your maiden name : (8 votes)
    16 %
    take your husband's last name : (36 votes)
    71 %
    hyphenate your two names : (1 votes)
    2 %
    legally keep your name but sometimes go by husband's last name : (4 votes)
    8 %
    come up with an alternative name or a different creative solution : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    3697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I am changing my name to FI’s name, totally getting rid of my maiden name. 

    My maiden name is my dad’s last name. I haven’t spoken to him since I was 3 and have absolutely no connection to it at all. I have always looked forward to getting married so that I could get rid of it. 

    Im also moving up in the alphabet. I am currently an S but my new name is a B!!

    Post # 4
    837 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’m taking my husband’s last name. I never even thought about doing anything else. I want to have the same last name as my future kids. :]

    Post # 5
    1107 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I will not be changing my name.  FI has known this forever, and agrees with me on the issue.  His name would sound horrible with mine, it’s part of who I am, and I am strongly against the tradition.  I feel as if it’s outdated, plus neither of us want kids, so we won’t have any issues with that.

    Post # 6
    3633 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’m already married but I haven’t gotten around to changing my name officially, aside from social media and email. I never liked my middle name so I moved my maiden name to my middle name slot and took DH’s last name as my last name. It was less about sentimentality and more about identity as we are of different ethnicities and I didn’t want to completely lose my heritage by losing my last name altogether.


    Post # 7
    3112 posts
    Sugar bee

    @crescentloon23:  I couldn’t vote.  I did First Maiden HisLast.  I love what I did!

    Post # 8
    712 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015


    I changed my last name. For me, taking my husband’s name symbolized my new role as a wife and becoming a part of his family. My husband did not pressure me to take his name, but he felt honored that I did.

    My father and my MIL both pressured me to take my husband’s name. They are both very traditional. 

    I get some static from some women for not keeping my name, but I don’t care what they think. The surname issue is so personal and women should not be made to feel bad for deciding whatever feels right to them. 

    I like my middle name too much to ever drop it and I would rather not bother with hyphenating. Where I live, a woman can simply assume her husband’s last name by changing all of her ID except her birth certificate. There is also the option to legally change the name on the birth certificate, but I was not born with my husband’s name so I didn’t want to do that. 




    Post # 9
    844 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I wish you had an “other” option!  I kept my last name and my wife hyphenated hers!

    Post # 11
    417 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Great question!  Growing up I couldn’t wait to get married just so I could get rid of my last name cause I hated it, but now that I am getting married I’m kind of sad to loose the name that I’ve had for my whole life.  I’m not sure what I’m going to do yet… if I hyphenate my name will just sound odd.  My mother wants me to keep my last name and hyphenate.  My fiance says he doesn’t care but I know he does… He gets frustrated that our pets last names at the vet are mine not his cause right now they’re like our babies.  He’s a big nerd like that lol, I told him he could go in and change it if he wanted, its only my name because I booked their first appointments and when they asked for my last name I gave it.  Decisions, decisions.

    Post # 13
    1305 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We don’t change our last names when we get married here in Iceland. Everyone keeps their last names because our last names are made up of fathersname+son/daughter. Ie. my dad is Haraldur so my last name is Haraldsdottir

    Post # 14
    917 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I am keeping my middle name and taking his last name. I do like my maiden name, and I’m fairly attached to it after returning to my maiden after a previous divorce. But my middle name is also a family name and sounds better with his last name, so the maiden is the one to go. I just like the idea of our little family unit all having the same last name.

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