Post # 1
I am a physician who (at least for the moment) is keeping my maiden name professionally, and everywhere else I am FirstName Maiden Married. Someone told me that in social situations, I am not Dr. FirstName Maiden HisLast or Dr. First HisLast, but rather Mrs.First Maiden HisLast or Mrs. First HisLast. I don’t think I lose the title I worked so hard for just because I am not using the same name everywhere, do I?
Post # 3
You don’t lose the title. However I would address you as Dr. First HisLast in a social situation as that’d be my way of acknowledging your marriage. I don’t know if that’s etiquette standard but that’s what I’ve always been taught to do.
Post # 4
Who cares about etiquette! I would still be Dr. First Maiden Last!
Post # 5
I would just address her Dr. First Maiden. Can’t go wrong with that since that is legally her name.
Post # 6
You definitely keep your “Dr” in social situations! I have several family friends who have done just as you have and, depending on the couple, I either addressed their invite to “Drs. John and Jane Smith” or “Dr. Jane Miller and Dr. John Smith.”
It gets a little complicated because you are taking his name socially, just not professionally, but I think it’s up to you to decide how you would like to be formally addressed: Dr Maiden or Dr HisLast. Either is fine and, once you put your return address as such and pass the word around, people will do as you ask (generally)
Post # 7
If you are a Doctor, you have earned the right to always be addressed as Dr. -and in your case- if you want to keep your Maiden name- you will be Dr. FirstName Maiden.
If I were you, I would be addressed this way always- that is the correct way for people to address you.
My sister does Dr. FirstName Maiden (and then will add HisLast when she wants to to acknowledge her marriage.)