How Are You Deciding How Many Kids, If Any?

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
89 posts
Worker bee

I want one my FI 2 so we are negotiating :p

I want to provide well for my kids and also be able to live a comfortable life after the mortage payments etc so more than 2 would for sure be hard financially to cope in my terms. I am a bit conservative when it comes to money so i have an emergency fund etc

Post # 4
2372 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

I think ideally FI and I both want 3 (he’s one of 3) but I 100% agree with you.  Although 3 is the goal, we will only have as many as we can afford comfortably and provide comfortably for!!

Post # 6
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I want two with one of them being a girl. If they are both boys I’ll try one more time for a girl.


Post # 7
1302 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My husband wants 2 and I have always wanted 3. I read somewhere that “when you start thinking about having a 3rd child is also when you start paying full price for a plane ticket for your first two.” Funny little saying that has always stuck with me – and it is probably true!

I am 100% with you. I want to have a comfortable life – Own a home, trade in my Toyota or other mid-class SUV every few years, go on a couple vacations evey year, pay my kids’ way through college, travel and allow them to experience the world. Quality over quantity for me!

Post # 8
2076 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We’ve definitely talked about it.  I think I would want them but not sure.  Fiancé wants them but says he would be happy without them.  As for how many I grew up in a family of 3 which was so fun but I don’t know if I could handle that with a career, so if we have kids we will just take it one at a time.  My fiancé just says he isn’t driving minivan.. Haha.  I don’t think you have to decide everything now- life circumstances can change everything.  it is just good to know general feelings on the subject

Post # 9
1666 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@ddstobe2015:  FI and I both want 3 kids (we both come from families with 3 kids). However, over the years we have discussed this topic a lot and may be only going for 2 kids.

Kids are expensive to raise. FI is a CPA. He has a good job that pays pretty well and he has room for growth with his firm. . . however, we want to be able to provide our kids with things we feel are important and we aren’t sure we would be able to do that for 3 kids.

Our plan is to get married in 2015 and start trying for a baby by our 1st wedding anniversary (I’ll be 28 and he’ll be 29). If we find that its too expensive for us to provide for 3 kids, then we will stop at 2. If we find that we actually can afford 3 kids, then we’ll consider it at the appropriate time.

Post # 11
1208 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2004
Post # 13
2118 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

FI and I both grew up in families of three children and we liked it, so we’re aiming for 3, but I think we’d be happy with 2-4.

Post # 14
2699 posts
Sugar bee

We’ve decided to start with one and see. The more I think about it though the more I want to have one and adopt the second.

Post # 16
430 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

SO and I both want 3-4 kids and wouldn’t be disappointed if there was a 5th in the mix. Both of us are kid people and would rather spend the day in with family over going out or driving fancy cars. Money isn’t a massive concern because of SO’s chosen profession – it would definitely be otherwise!

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