Post # 1
Less than a week for me! I know there are a lot of ladies with the same date too. How are you feeling now that it is so close, January brides?
I have to admit I sunk into a depression around the one month mark. I think part of it was physical/hormonal, but a great deal was stress and adjustment. I read a great article about doubt and depression before the wedding, and it explained that many times it’s simply a manifestation of fear and grief. Fear of the wedding not going right, fear of becoming a married woman, and other changes. Grief over the loss of identity as a single woman, losing your name, etc. It really struck a chord with me because not only am I getting married, but I’m also applying for a visa and hopefully moving to his country the following month. Talk about a ton of adjustment!
Ever since Thursday though, it was like I finally snapped out of it, and now I am actually excited. I can’t remember when I last felt excited about the wedding, so this is so refreshing. I just get giddy throughout the day thinking of it – little details in the wedding, the first look, the ceremony, and of course officially being married.
So tell me, how are you feeling now that it is near? Excited? Has it hit you yet? Still have tons to do? Or are you relaxed?
Post # 3
I am honestly so up and down in my emotions right now. I have one day where I’m completely stress-free, and feeling like everything will be great. Then the next day I’ll feel completely overwhelmed and want to say f*** it to everything. Today is a good day! I’m hoping they stay that way….and they should because the vendors who were ignoring calls and emails for weeks finally returned them! My biggest to do is the seating chart, seating chart frame, and place cards, but FI swore we would do it together this weekend!
Post # 4
My FI is more nervous than I am (haha). He’s actually saying things like “I don’t want to mess up”, “This is once in a life time thing, what if it goes bad”, etc while I’m in the mindset of “Who cares! I’m just going to make sure I get to eat and chill on the wedding day.” (FI even suggested that we start practicing our first dance every day, 30 mins each – no, we don’t have any choreography planned, and was going to just sway to the 2-3min music…so I don’t understand what’s there to “practice” so much!)
The only thing I am nervous about is getting great photos. I’m worried that I won’t like our wedding photos…or I’ll look bad in them.
That and the fact that I have to drive my MOH back and forth from the wedding. My MOH is my younger sister and ever since she failed her road test in H.S., she never got one – so…I will be driving us to the hair & makeup (at 5AM….), drive us to the venue, then drive us back to the apt after the wedding (I don’t even get to drive back with my husband ;_;).
Post # 5
@bowsergirl: I’m also getting married on January 11th! 🙂 I had been feeling so stress-free, but I think today it is finally sinking in. I’m so nervous, but yet so excited.
To the rest of the January brides, I wish you girls nothing but the best of luck on your wedding day! I’m sure it will all turn out great.
Post # 6
@SophieB3: Well, I’m glad I wasn’t alone in feeling crazy. I hope you have good days from here on out!
@Redholix: It’s actually kinda cute that he’s so nervous. I get you on the driving thing – my FI can’t drive, so I feel like I have to baby him and get him everywhere. Wedding day though, I am dropping him off with the best man and going on my own! lol
@7yearlovestory: I have felt strangely stress-free this week too. I guess it helped that I had everything done by the weekend, so now I can relax, work on my visa, and enjoy the company of those coming into town. It’s nice!