(Closed) How are you handling inviting people that you work with?

posted 9 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Well I notified the ones I wanted to come in person and then I had asked to not speak of the details to anyone in the office. These people are great people so they would never do it because it could cause drama.

 I also mailed them their invite instead and hand delivered to those that preferred to receive their invite by hand.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We are not iniviting coworkers at all. Just family and close friends. There is one guy my fiance works with that he has thought about inviting but he feels if he invites him, he’ll have to invite the rest of the group. He works for a very small company so word would get out. It’s just easier not inviting any.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I didn’t talk about the wedding at work so no one had the impression they might be invited and we mailed the invitations to those coworkers that we did wish to invite.  I’d suggest if you do invite coworkers, only invite those you truly feel close to.  We were on the fence about a few coworkers, mostly because they are close to the ones we did want to invite, but ultimately, we only invited those that we were close to.  Don’t spend too much time thinking about hurt feelings at work.  Most of them are only your coworkers, not your close friends.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I work in a small office (12 people) and I’ll be inviting all of them. There is a slight issue over the freelance & part time people I work with though – not sure if I should invite them or not. As I live/work in London and I’ll be getting married back home in Ohio, I’m hoping most of my colleagues won’t actually make the trip!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I had a hard and fast "If we’ve hung out outside the office, you’re invited" rule.  There’s one person i wish I could have invited but the guest list was starting to get out of hand.  FI isn’t inviting anyone outside of work.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I suppose it depends upon how small your office is. I work with about 75 people but I’m only inviting those that are actually my close friends. There are 3 other people who are engaged at my organization, but I would never expect to be invited to their weddings because we’re friendly, not friends.

Don’t worry, if some people get bent out of shape for their unrealistic expectations, that’s their fault, not yours!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Well I’m handling it by not inviting coworkers — but then again, I wouldn’t say that I’m close friends with any of them. =)

Just invite the ones your close to, and if the others raise a fuss, say it was due to "budget concerns". 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I work with about 60 people, some of whom I’m rather close with, some of whom I enjoy their company and others that I’d just rather not be around. I’m inviting the ones I’m close to — I like the "if we’ve hung out outside work" rule. Before I mail out invitations, I’m going to chat with each invitee personally and convey that I’d like them to keep quiet as I don’t want to offend anyone. I feel it also helps that my wedding will be 600+ miles away from my office so the ones I’m not close to probably wouldn’t come anyway.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I mailed my boss his invitation as well.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’m not close friends with any of my co-workers, and I’m also getting married 90 minutes from DC, where our office is. I honestly don’t expect any of them to want to come.

Post # 13
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1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

definitely no co-workers at my wedding especially not my boss

 

I have two friends we hang out at happy hour

Post # 14
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349 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We didn’t invite coworkers. We both had a few that we really like, but we also used the rule, "If we left the job, would we still be friends?" and sadly, we decided we probably wouldn’t, so we crossed them off the guest list. It’s really just easier that way.

But if you feel you must invite these people, just mail their invitation, and ask that no one talks about the wedding at work. My boss recently got married, and I had no idea some people were invited (and some, including myself) were not. I know, it was rude of the BOSS to pick favorites, but he made one major mistakes, hand-distributed thank you cards in front of everyone. Bad move. If he had mailed them, no one would have been the wiser.

So, just mail all wedding-related materials (invites, thank you, etc.) and don’t talk about it, and instruct those you do invite to do the same. If anyone does ask, you can just you’re only inviting close friends and family due to space limitations.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I work for a small company, 12 employees and I’ve invited them all!  I’m close with about 8 of them and felt bad if I didn’t invite the other 4, so I went ahead and invited them. 

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