How are you handling the night before your wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

We’re getting our hotel suite for the wedding night and the rehearsal night. After the rehearsal dinner my mom and I are going to stay in the suite and have a sleepover for my last night as a single lady! 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

That’s tough. We didn’t book a hotel so we would be seperate and plus it made it easier for all the girls and me to get ready in the morning. Does your husband have any friends or family he can stay with? 

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

kb7:  I have a similar situation! For our wedding night, I booked a suite. For the night before the wedding, I also reserved a room just in case (it is cancellable up to 24 hours before check-in). My FI and I live together, and I really don’t like the idea of sleeping in a hotel the night before. I feel like I probably won’t get a good night’s rest (not that I will be able to anyway, haha). I also was worried about where to get ready. So here is what we are doing:

He is going to stay at his parents’ house the night before the wedding. He feels that he will be comfortable there. I am going to stay at our house with my MOH. We will leave the house in the morning and going to the hair salon. My hair salon is awesome, and they offered to let us get ready there, setting up a table with drinks/snacks and a place to do our own makeup and hang out while everyone gets their hair done. That way we don’t have to worry about getting a hotel room just to get ready.

 

If your FI doesn’t have family nearby, maybe you could stay in seperate areas of the house? It might be kind of fun 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

kb7:  I’m going to be staying at my parents’ house

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Well, for my wedding I had rented two houses for each of our families…he stayed at “his” rental and I stayed at “my” rental.  I spent the night before the wedding with my bridesmaids, my mom and a close family friend working on all the DIY stuff for my wedding (flowers, reception decor, steaming the dresses, etc).  He spent the night before the wedding smoking cigars with the male members of his family.  We both got “bonding” time with our families, and it was what worked for us.

 

I say do whatever feels right to you.  The most important thing is to get a good night’s sleep!!! 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

kb7:  We got a suite the night before the wedding and the night of. Right now, we plan to stay overnight the night before together. Unsure if this will change but I’m ok with it. We’ve lived together for 4 years now so the jig is up.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I went to the rehearsal/rehearsal dinner and went home with my now husband. We slept in our room, in our bed, and in the morning I left and went to get ready. That’s just what worked for us. It seemed silly to sleep apart when we were doing a first look anyway.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We are going to be having a normal night at home just the two of us (after the rehearsal dinner). I decided I wanted it this way because it would help me be calm and sleep. But it sounds like you don’t want to do this, so I am not very helpful!

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

kb7:  Yeah, the couch doesn’t sound fun at all… you don’t want to be stiff or uncomfortable! I feel the same way about sleeping apart the night before.. it makes it more fun and builds up the anticpation and the “moment” more i think!

I know this is silly, but you could invest in a good air mattress or put one on your registry! if we were going to be staying in the same house, either he or I would sleep downstairs (Finished basement) on our air mattress. Just as comfy as our bed!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Stay in a cheaper hotel the night before the wedding? Stay at home with your FI, leave first thing in the morning, and the official “don’t see each other before the wedding” part begins when you walk out the door? (Still counts, I think)? Get a hotel room or suite with your BMs and split the cost? If your parents live far away, are they going to be getting a hotel room the night before the wedding? You could stay with them there. Or any other out-of-town close friends, for that matter.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We stayed together the night before the wedding and I’m so glad we did. We got to wake up together and share a little bit of “OH MY GOD IT’S FINALLY HERE!!!” excitement. Then we separated to get ready and met up for our first look.

Have you actually thought about why you don’t want to see him until the first look? If you have and it’s really important, then you’ll have to find somewhere else to stay. But if that’s just the default because “it’s what people do” then I’d think about just staying together and then separating to get ready with your girls. Because it’s once you’re all dolled up that you want to have a bbig first look.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m staying in a hotel, my parents live about 45 minutes away from the venue, but are staying close-by so that I have somewhere to get ready that’s not my own house.. Could you arrange something like this?

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