- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2009
I’m really blessed to have a very good partner and friend by my side. We have our struggles but if there’s anything I remember after we have a fight my friend’s words at my wedding: “Whenever you feel like letting go, remember what brought you two here today.” Share tips for other Bee’s on how you are keeping it strong in your marriage.
This is what has worked for me so far. I still have to remind myself of these things every day:
TALK and LISTEN: We always talk about the things that are bothering us and when we hold it for too long we talk about not holding it as well. We really try to express what we feel and you can really tell how things can go wrong when we don’t do it. Listen to what your SO has to say. If he’s saying that he’s hurt by something that you did it is not your job to explain why he/she took you the wrong way, it is your duty to acknowledge and make it right! (TRUST ME! I learned this the hard way and I’m still learning)
SUPPORT: We do our best effort to support each other and to take decisions together. I’m going to school and working full time as well. He helps me with making copies for my students, cutting, gluing etc. I support him likewise.
SHARE: We share a lot. By sharing I mean, chores, responsibilities inside and outside home (like paying bills, calling customer representatives, taking the cars to maintenance etc).
RESPECT: Respect each other! sounds like a no brainer but respect goes a long way. Respect each other’s space, privacy and ideas. It is very for a highly political teacher like me to respect my husband’s views. However, when we get into an argument that seems to have no end, I always want to end it by agreeing to disagree.
and finally, just love each other. Kiss a lot, hold hands, cuddle and don’t say you’re too tired!!