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Hello Bees! I posted a question yesterday regarding how long is your engagement: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-long-is-your-engagement-2
Many of the responses I got related to having a longer engagement to save money. So here is my question: how many brides are paying for their own weddings? I know it's hard discussing money issues, but we don't have to get into dollar figures, just a general response.
My fiance and I are paying for our own wedding, but being Chinese, many of our wedding gifts will be monetary red envelopes from relatives which will help offset some of the cost. I'm sure money highly impacts our decisions like how much to spend on your dress, cake, shoes, venue, flowers!
FI and I will be paying for the whole wedding ourselves. FI's parents are covering our honeymoon as they did for his brother when he got married.
Mr. Rocks and I are paying for our wedding ourselves. I did not respond to the other post, but we are having a super loooong engagement (2+ years) so we can save enough to have a wedding we enjoy. We save by cutting out most of the "extras" (eating out, going to bars). We are also thinking about getting a short-term roommate to help save some $$.
Were having a small Wedding w not a lot of guests. Were paying for our own Wedding, and dont expect any $$ from anyone.
We;'ve been paying things slowly, 1 at a time. We dont want to go crazy putting everything down on a credit card.
We are paying for ours. We made an agreement we are NOT going into debt for it, so nothing goes on credit cards. If we can't afford to pay for it in cash, we don't need it. We've booked everything ourselves and each week, put money toward everything that can be paid off before the day of the wedding- photographer, chapel, etc. etc. We came up with the plan to budget $XXX each week toward the wedding. Some weeks we pay more, which makes up for weeks we pay a little less. At that rate of spending, we will have all the "essentials" paid off by around mid-May and can focus on the extra stuff/honeymoon, etc. from May-August. And we paid for the honeymoon using skymiles and Marriott points so all we have to worry about is spending money as far as that goes.
This was just easiest for us. We didn't feel comfortable asking family to contribute, nor putting any of it on credit (because it could quickly balloon to a much more expensive wedding if we allowed ourselves to do that rather than just pay for everything out of checking).
The costs are split among my grandma, my parents, his parents, and us. His parents are footing most of the costs.
FI and I are also paying for the whole thing ourselves. Thank God we found a CHEAP venue! We are having our reception at a small amusement park under an indoor big top. It seats 500 guests and will have concession type food (pizza, hot dogs, corn on the cob, popcorn, cotton candy, fruit kabobs, bbq chicken, potato salad, green salad)to go along with our carnival themed wedding. We will have a ohotography room with props, an darcade room, unlimited rides and miniature golf! All for the awesome price of $24.95 per person! There is no additional cost for the venue itself!!! We are having 200-250 guests. We are really stolked about the whole thing! A lot cheaper than we had thought it would be. I hear people paying cazy amounts per person, we totally got a steal, and it's going to be sooooo much fun!!!
We are paying for about 75% of it and my father is giving us the rest!
We are paying for the wedding ourselves. He is covering the big things like, catering, photography, tent rental, and I am covering everything else.
My dad is footing the bill. I offered to pay for the wedding, but he said he'd rather I save the money to pay for my MBA (which will cost about the same as the wedding).
Not sure if my opinion counts as I am a waiting Bee but my FH and I have discussed this and we are having a destination wedding and are paying for it ourselves. We are also telling people that they are not expected to bring gifts, just themselves. My Mum wants to shop with me and buy my dress for me however.
We’re paying for a little less than half of our total wedding cost. My parents are generously footing the bill for the ceremony & reception, FI’s parents are paying for the flowers & RD, my aunt and uncle are paying for our cake and my grandmother paid for my dress. This still leaves the DJ, photographer, rings, possible videographer, BP gifts, my accessories, accommodations, additional decorations, etc… for us to cover.
We are obviously paying for our wedding with kitten whiskers and magic :D :P
But seriously, we're paying for it ourselves. We agreed that we wouldn't go into debt to get married, and that we would shoot for an ideal budget (about 5k) that we would prefer not to go over too much.
One of the stipulations was that we purchase a house before getting married as it was a more important financial decision for Us (we've been together almost 7 years & already have a family so yeah, different strokes for different folks).
Aside from budgeting, not going out a lot, and working lots of overtime we have invested a lot of our money which has given us a decent return which allows us to have more 'play' with our finances.
Other than that we're not doing anything too extravagant in regards to the wedding, which helps keep costs down.
His parents are paying for the traditional parents of the groom items (i.e. rehearsal dinner). FI is paying for the honeymooon. Everything else will be split probably 15% my parents and 85% me. My parents gave me a fixed amount and anything above and beyond was my responsibility. We're having a 1.5 year engagment, it's the shortest amount of time where I can save what I need to.
We are paying for it ourselves, but family is starting to say they want to pay for certain things. His grandmother wants to pay for our cupcakes.
We're paying for half of it ($4k). Originally we were going to try to do a wedding under $5k (from our savings), but then my mom and her husband gave us $4k, so we are able to do something a bit nicer than we originally planned. :) My dad will probably give us a $1k gift after the wedding (that's what he gave to my brother), but I'm not counting on it.
We are paying for about 75% of it ourselves, which is part of why we are having a somewhat long (16 months) engagement as we are both adamant about not going into debt for it, and thus wanted to give ourselves plenty of time to save up for it. I never expected my (or his) parents to pay for it, and I'm thrilled that they are helping at all, but I do sometimes find myself getting a tad jealous of my friends who are having much shorter engagements because they don't have to worry about the money aspect of it all.
We set down with my dad and decided on a budget of about $15K. I've been able to get that down to about $11K. If my Dad commits to his $11K (75%) We should be GREAT!!!!!!!!!!
Oh and I've already put about $4K in for deposits and such!
Including EVERYTHING (rings, honeymoon, travel, rehearsal, luncheon etc etc)
about 40-50% my parents,
5% In Laws
Remaining us.
@Donnica22: I have a question, does this include honeymoon and rings? I always wonder that about budgets people talk about.
We're paying for about 2/3, my parents are paying about 1/3 and for an at-home reception, and his parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner and a few miscellaneous items. We have been working on sticking to our budget and not spending outside our means, but I'm sure we will end up spending more than what we initially budgeted! As long as we don't put anything on a credit card or incur any sort of wedding related debt, I'll be happy.
I am not including honeymoon or rings (or our second ceremony to a state that will legally marry us). So, all together, we will probably shell out an additional $2k, so I guess we are technically having a $10k wedding. :)
My parents are being angels and offered to pay for the wedding. FI's parents are contributing to cover the flowers and rehearsal dinner. FI and I are paying for the rings, our honeymoon and some miscellaneous costs.
We are paying for the wedding ourselves. We have budgeted $2000 but I would like to be under that honestly. We have about half of that saved. Basically, we have been eating lots of pasta and not going out as much.
@lefeymw: No honeymoon is not in there. But our bands are. Even though my FI bought my band already. His cost for HIS is in there! :)
My Dad is paying for our honeymoon though. So FI got over on that one! LOL
Like other bees we too are paying for our wedding. We decided on a longer engagement to help save up as we did not want to start off our marriage with debt. 37 days left to go!!! :)
We are saving every penny we can and cutting back on a lot of stuff. We are also biting the bullet and accepting help from our parents.
We moved in together and I continue to pay all the bills and his check goes completely into our wedding fund. We've pretty much saved all the money in about 4 months!!
Our budget is 10kish. Probably closer to 9k. We're paying for 70-80% of it. My mom is paying about 10%, my dad about 10%, and the in-laws about 5-10%.
We're paying for most everything.
My mom is paying for half the cake, a photobooth, and odd's and ends.
My dad payed for my dress.
In-laws are paying for rehearsal dinner.
The part that we're paying is coming from saving monthly, but mostly it's coming from the money we got when we refianced our home. We'd be up a creek and have an even smaller budget if we hadn't refianced our house last year.
When we started planning we picked a wedding and honeymoon budget that we were sure that we can afford on our own, because we didn't know if anyone else would help. My father had just bought me a brand new car, so he wasn't going to pay for our wedding, like I had always envisioned because I have always been princess to him. Don't get me wrong, I am completely fine with that.
FI's parents gave us some money to use on the wedding, so we paid off our venu with it.
My mom and step father bought a whole bunch of things for our wedding (my dress, jewelry, bridesmaids dresses, etc) They have also given us some money for other things (like musican, etc). My stepfather is also a great potter, so he is making us some bud vases to be used as place card holders/favors
My father ended up giving us a honeymoon to New Zealand.
So in the long run we are ending up with a lot more money than we expected, and now are able to buy some extras for our wedding without going over budget!
I'd imagine that we'll be picking up the tab for 10% of the wedding. My family is really going above and beyond with their generosity, I must admit. FI is working to pay my engagement ring off in the mean time, and we're also saving for any additional expenses that might pop up. We already own a home together (plus a rental property that we'll be selling this summer, that'll help with cash) and have cash in savings just in case.
My Dad is paying for practically everything, including rehearsal dinner and he might even throw some money towards the honeymoon (which FI does intend to pay for) My Mom paid for my dresses and I'm sure she'll contribute $$ towards other things. My fiance and I are both financially indendent and I'm turning thirty a month after the wedding. I didn't go to my parents and ask them to pay for my wedding - I'm their only daughter and they always expected to pay for it, and they can cetainly afford it. I'm trying to keep things as cheap as possible out of respect for them, though, because I don't need something expensive. OH, and FI's brother is making the cake. FMIL did offer to pay for the rehearsal dinner but it's going to be at least $1500 and my Dad said he'd prefer to pay for it. We shall see
Ours was kind of a mix.
DH's parents paid for the church rental (expensive) and the rehearsal dinner.
My parents paid for the dress, shoes (Kate Spades, they were a surprise!) catering, and cupcakes.
We paid for the reception rental, deposit, alcohol, linens, tables and chairs, flowers, etc.
I thought we'd be paying for our wedding ourselves, and if we had then it would have meant that we'd pay my pastor to do a civil ceremony. As it was, my parents generously gifted us enough to have an inexpensive wonderful wedding! :)
We paid for most of the wedding ourselves, my parents gave me some money towards the wedding (about 20% of our total) and my husbands parents paid for the RD.
We are paying about a 1/3 of our wedding.
And my parents were nice enough to pay for the rest.
We actually had a short engagement (6 months) and paid for it ourselves. Fortunately I already had about 1/2 the money needed in savings. My DH paid for the honeymoon. His dad paid for the rehearsal. And my real dad gave us enough to cover the paper products/postage. The rest I paid for as I went by being thrifty. We were really proud to have had the wedding of our dreams with little help from family and did not use credit! :)
We're still figuring out the exact budget, but I think we'll end up paying for about a third of the costs, with both sets of parents contributing to make up the rest. That's not including rings and honeymoon, which we'll also be paying for ourselves.
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