Post # 1
Hello Bees! I posted a question yesterday regarding how long is your engagement: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-long-is-your-engagement-2
Many of the responses I got related to having a longer engagement to save money. So here is my question: how many brides are paying for their own weddings? I know it’s hard discussing money issues, but we don’t have to get into dollar figures, just a general response.
My fiance and I are paying for our own wedding, but being Chinese, many of our wedding gifts will be monetary red envelopes from relatives which will help offset some of the cost. I’m sure money highly impacts our decisions like how much to spend on your dress, cake, shoes, venue, flowers!
Post # 3
FI and I will be paying for the whole wedding ourselves. FI’s parents are covering our honeymoon as they did for his brother when he got married.
Post # 4
Mr. Rocks and I are paying for our wedding ourselves. I did not respond to the other post, but we are having a super loooong engagement (2+ years) so we can save enough to have a wedding we enjoy. We save by cutting out most of the “extras” (eating out, going to bars). We are also thinking about getting a short-term roommate to help save some $$.
Post # 5
Were having a small Wedding w not a lot of guests. Were paying for our own Wedding, and dont expect any $$ from anyone.
We;’ve been paying things slowly, 1 at a time. We dont want to go crazy putting everything down on a credit card.
Post # 6
We are paying for ours. We made an agreement we are NOT going into debt for it, so nothing goes on credit cards. If we can’t afford to pay for it in cash, we don’t need it. We’ve booked everything ourselves and each week, put money toward everything that can be paid off before the day of the wedding- photographer, chapel, etc. etc. We came up with the plan to budget $XXX each week toward the wedding. Some weeks we pay more, which makes up for weeks we pay a little less. At that rate of spending, we will have all the “essentials” paid off by around mid-May and can focus on the extra stuff/honeymoon, etc. from May-August. And we paid for the honeymoon using skymiles and Marriott points so all we have to worry about is spending money as far as that goes.
This was just easiest for us. We didn’t feel comfortable asking family to contribute, nor putting any of it on credit (because it could quickly balloon to a much more expensive wedding if we allowed ourselves to do that rather than just pay for everything out of checking).
Post # 7
The costs are split among my grandma, my parents, his parents, and us. His parents are footing most of the costs.
Post # 8
FI and I are also paying for the whole thing ourselves. Thank God we found a CHEAP venue! We are having our reception at a small amusement park under an indoor big top. It seats 500 guests and will have concession type food (pizza, hot dogs, corn on the cob, popcorn, cotton candy, fruit kabobs, bbq chicken, potato salad, green salad)to go along with our carnival themed wedding. We will have a ohotography room with props, an darcade room, unlimited rides and miniature golf! All for the awesome price of $24.95 per person! There is no additional cost for the venue itself!!! We are having 200-250 guests. We are really stolked about the whole thing! A lot cheaper than we had thought it would be. I hear people paying cazy amounts per person, we totally got a steal, and it’s going to be sooooo much fun!!!
Post # 9
We are paying for about 75% of it and my father is giving us the rest!
Post # 10
We are paying for the wedding ourselves. He is covering the big things like, catering, photography, tent rental, and I am covering everything else.
Post # 11
My dad is footing the bill. I offered to pay for the wedding, but he said he’d rather I save the money to pay for my MBA (which will cost about the same as the wedding).
Post # 12
@blg529: GREAT FATHER!!!!!!!!!! 🙂
Post # 13
Not sure if my opinion counts as I am a waiting Bee but my FH and I have discussed this and we are having a destination wedding and are paying for it ourselves. We are also telling people that they are not expected to bring gifts, just themselves. My Mum wants to shop with me and buy my dress for me however.
Post # 13
We’re paying for a little less than half of our total wedding cost. My parents are generously footing the bill for the ceremony & reception, FI’s parents are paying for the flowers & RD, my aunt and uncle are paying for our cake and my grandmother paid for my dress. This still leaves the DJ, photographer, rings, possible videographer, BP gifts, my accessories, accommodations, additional decorations, etc… for us to cover.
Post # 14
We are obviously paying for our wedding with kitten whiskers and magic 😀 😛
But seriously, we’re paying for it ourselves. We agreed that we wouldn’t go into debt to get married, and that we would shoot for an ideal budget (about 5k) that we would prefer not to go over too much.
One of the stipulations was that we purchase a house before getting married as it was a more important financial decision for Us (we’ve been together almost 7 years & already have a family so yeah, different strokes for different folks).
Aside from budgeting, not going out a lot, and working lots of overtime we have invested a lot of our money which has given us a decent return which allows us to have more ‘play’ with our finances.
Other than that we’re not doing anything too extravagant in regards to the wedding, which helps keep costs down.
Post # 15
His parents are paying for the traditional parents of the groom items (i.e. rehearsal dinner). FI is paying for the honeymooon. Everything else will be split probably 15% my parents and 85% me. My parents gave me a fixed amount and anything above and beyond was my responsibility. We’re having a 1.5 year engagment, it’s the shortest amount of time where I can save what I need to.