(Closed) How bad are the “terrible two’s,” really?

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m not a mom, but I have worked in a daycare for 2 years in the 2’s classroom and I’ve also nannied my nieces during that age. Honestly, to me, the 3s are worse than the 2s! lol. 2 year olds can be stubborn at times and they do have some tantrums, but it seems to me that 3s are MUCH more independent with what they want to do and how they want to do it. And for me, that is much more frustrating.

2s are just so darn cute! They start saying the cutest things and they are learning ALL the time. I love that age. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Honestly, I don’t have any resources, but it was SUPER easy for me.

I hear that boys are harder then girls though.

Is there anything in particular that you are worried about?

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

For us he was out of his stinking mind. I swear as soon as we cut the cake on his 2nd birthday until the day we cut the cake on his 3rd birthday he was a totally different child. As an example: 2 weeks after his second birthday DH and I were sitting on the couch. He walks in and starts throwing himself against the wall and slamming the floor lamp against the wall while screaming at the top of his lungs. DH and I just stared with our mouths wide open and decided it was just best to ignore the freak out.It was like he was posessed.

This continued for an entire year. Tons of “No’s” and timeouts. Now he’s back to being a sweet fantastic little man at 3 and half. Thank goodness.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t think that it is that bad. I think just setting routines and sticking with consequences helps a lot. I have learned to walk out of the room or start doing something else when a tantrum starts. As long as she is on carpeting and won’t hit her head, she is fine. These only happen a couple times a month. She just wants freedom, to do things on her own, and make choices.

Also, in my experience (she is almost 3) giving easy decisions helps a lot. Like if she doesn’t want to get dressed, I will let her pick between two outfits. This way she feels like she got the final say.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My nephew is 2 1/2 almost. He was a very easy baby for my brother and sister in law to take care of, and he has a bit of a temper now, but for the most part he is okay. There are def. days where he wants to be independent and he can’t do certain things by himself, and it makes him mad, but that’s normal. Kids are learning that they are individuals, and they want to do everything you are doing. My brother is a laid back kind of guy, and when he was little he was always good in public, and then he would have his little freak outs only at home, and my sister in law was pretty much the same. I was also like this, because well our mom tought us early on that it was not okay to have tantrums in the middle of the store, or in a resturant. If we did we would go home, and get put int time out or she would embarrass us by getting on the floor with us and kicking and screaming, and be like “See how ridicolous you are being?” Haha it was kinda funny. We also had a chart with stars on it, if we behaved for the day we got a star for that day, and at the end of the 2 weeks if you had so many stars you got a treat. It was pretty cool. My brother is going to start doing this chart with my newphew soon, and I think it’s a good idea. But I think it depends on the kid. Some get more frustrated than others, and I don’t know if them being an easy baby will affect the way they act as they get older, because I have some friends with kids and they were easy babies but now they are starting to act up  little, so like I said, it depends I think. For the most part my nephew is pretty good, and so stinkin cute! He looks just like my brother, haha. He is our ring bearer for our wedding. But enjoy your daughter now like people are telling you, but not because she might act out when she is older, just because she will never be this age again. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My daughter is already getting there at 20 months. Currently, her initial reaction to being told no or being scolded or not getting what she wants is to go find something, whatever is closest, and throw it. Just pick it up and throw it to get some aggression out. That, and she’s very much starting to like to hit us when she’s mad, which is a definite no-no. She’s just getting more willful. Oh, and the constant stream of “NO NO!”s is really a pleasure as well.

I’d say I hope she outgrows it but I know by the time that happens she’ll be a teenager and OH what a joy that will be!

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@beeautifullife: Totally agree with giving choices. This helped us out a lot.  He just wanted to be in control. We did things like buying 2 winter coats, he wasn’t a fan of coats, but giving him the choice between red and blue seemed to stop the tantrums. Allowing him to pick his cup, or his own meal at restaurants, or shoes, made the days much easier.

@Mrs. Spring: I’m not sure if it matters since he’s the only one and I have nothing to compare it too, but he was a super easy going baby. Went to bed with no problems, not cranky, no cholic or anything like that either. He’s the same way now. He doesn’t fight about bed time, will try any food you put in front of him, and has very good manors.

He is my bonus son and I am a super lucky to have him and DH in my life. Even during the 2 year old tantrums. LOL

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I also agree with rountines, and consequences for bad behavior and good behavior. Like I said my mom did the chart with us, and we got put into time out if we misbehaved, or got sent to our rooms. Don’t stray too much from her normal rountine. If you give her a bath everynight before bed, I would continue to do that, and if you read to her or anything like that keeo doing that. My brother and sister in law make sure my newphew is pretty much in bed at the same time every night. only on special occasions does he get to be up later, like Christmas, and birthdays and stuff. They also take him outside a lot when it’s warmer out so he can get his energy out, which is good for him. It makes him less energtic towards the end of the day and less likely to put up a fight when it comes to certain things.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I second routine! Helps alot.

Also choosing your battle as a mom. I let my daughter make little choices and that really helped her feel like she was in control. Like which bowl she ate out of or which pair of pants to wear. Also sticking with what you say. The second you just give up and go “FINE do whatever you want” they know that the tantrum works.

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