Post # 1
So I’m invited to a wedding next weekend and I am 6 months pregnant. I’ve searched for two months for a dress and I haven’t found anything I really liked except for one dress. At first budget was a major concern but knowing that maternity dresses are not cheap, I guess any dress for that matter, I’m willing to spend a decent amount like around $150-$200 but it needs to be reasonable, meaning, I should like it enough to spend that much when I know I’ll only be wearing it once. Granted there is a lot of selection for maternity wear nowadays but when you actually shop for it, you’ll see the choices for wedding appropriate dresses is really limited and I hate the baby doll look, but I’m willing to do it if the dress is right. Having shopped around and having bought stuff online to try on and then returning them, I found a dress that I really like and feel good in. The problem is, it only comes in black, red and cobalt blue. I don’t really wear blue, unless it’s jeans and especially cobalt blue, so I ordered black and red. Now the problem is which one do I wear to the wedding. I know both colors are controversial and I’ve done a lot of reading online to see what people say and the information is conflicting. Some say black is a symbol of wanting to break up the marriage and that it also symbolizes mourning, while other sites say that black is okay nowadays and to break out the LBD. As for red, some people say it’s too attention grabbing and sexy while others say it’s a fun festive color and that people should wear it. I’m a brunette and I feel the red goes better with my hair and skin color and I just like the way it looks on me, but I don’t want to be that girl who has made a faux pas and that people talk about after the wedding. I also don’t want the wedding to dictate how I spend my money, meaning not choosing the dress I want to keep because of the bride, but I know it will. I don’t know the bride to ask her. I have worn both red and black to other weddings but now that I’m pregnant I’m bigger and I feel like a billboard, and there will be a lot of family members who I haven’t seen for a couple of years (My husband and I just moved back from living abroad for 2 years) and this will be the first time they see me and pregnant so I feel that I will have a lot of attention drawn on me already. This is so frustrating! Which color dress should I wear?! Is red really that bad to wear? Any help is appreciated. Thank you ladies!
Post # 3
I think it is fine to wear red to a wedding. It is festive!
Post # 4
I think it depends on the occasion. I think black would be a little too formal for a backyard type of wedding, but I think red and black would be great for an evening/formal reception. Ultimately these are such dumb reasons to not wear something that you like. You’ll be fine, just make sure you don’t show up naked. 😉
ps. Red is also considered good luck. So I think that cancels itself out, don’t you?
Post # 5
I would have no problem with anyone wearing red to my wedding! Go for it!
Post # 7
You’re fine wearing red to a wedding these days (as long as it’s not the color of the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses). I’m wearing a red dress to a wedding in a few months!
Post # 8
I think either would be okay, but I would pick the black. It’s true that, historically, wearing black to wedding meant that you didn’t think it was going to work, but I think there are SO MANY people who wear black to weddings now that it’s not a big deal at all. Growing up, I was told that wearing red to a wedding meant you thought the bride was of certain loose morals. I think this is an old southern thing and most people have never heard of it, but it still makes me stay away from red at weddings. Plus red is about the loudest and most attention grabbing color you can get (other than white) so I’d stay with the black. But really either would be okay.
Post # 9
I’d go with the black dress and dress it up with fun accessories and colorful heels! Red is a bit too flashy for my tastes. And FWIW, I wore black to a wedding a few months ago and definitely wasn’t the only guest there in black!
Post # 10
Red is good luck! Black is also fine. My mother wore black to our wedding. She regretted it when it was 90+ outside, but she looked good! Come to think of it, my SIL also wore a LBD. Maybe a black shrug or wrap with the red would make you feel a little more comfortable?
Post # 11
It sounds like etiquette would suggest people are only allowed to wear purple or green to weddings. Which is totally ridiculous.
As long as it’s not white, you are clear
Post # 12
I try to avoid red at weddings, I had a nice red satin dress in the closet when it came to my friend’s destination wedding, rather than buy a new one I used this red ress, my hubby said there’s no way your friend will be upstaged (she loves fashion) and sure enough it was fine, i didn’t have to shell out for a new outfit and could use my red flashy dress
go for it whatever you want
Post # 13
I think either are totally 100% fine!
Post # 16
I’m getting married in Aug, and I would be fine if you wore red to my wedding!