(Closed) How bad of a friend would I be?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey bee

I would go. You have already committed and it’s late in the week to be canceling.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I feel like if you are a close enough friend to be in her wedding she should be close enough to understand you are sicl and just can’t come.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

tell her you can’t make it and why.  If she is a good friend she will understand.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@chasesgirl:  +1

if you’re sick, you’re sick. I’m sure she’d rather see you heathly than sick and miserable. Maybe when you tell her see if she ewants to get together another weekend with just you and her?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It sounds to me like you just don’t want to go. *shrug* 

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you’re truly too sick to go, don’t go.  I’m sure she would understand. If not and you just don’t want to go and are using being sick as an excuse, I’d try and make it. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Tell her you can’t go.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Stay home. It’s hardly the end of the world if you miss one get together for a wedding that’s not until next year. Sounds like you could use the rest and time to heal.  She should understand.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Maybe if you decide not to go you could send her a small bouquet or something saying you wished you could be there and look forward to the next time you all get together?

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

TBH, if you were my bridesmaid and you were sick, I would NOT want you there to potentially infect everyone else. Not to say I wouldn’t appreciate your company, but I would appreciate you keeping your germs to yourself 😉 Stay home!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Uhhh, just because it’s wedding related does not mean it supercedes your health and well being…I would call her and let her know that your eye is jacked up, your tired and that you’ve got wild dogs snapping at your rear end at work…it’s ok, really.  Don’t make things worse by pushing it, we all need a little down time every now and again!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 1993

So you’ve had your eye problem for several weeks — are you going to work every day?  Driving every day?  It sounds a little bit to me like you are trying to avoid participating in the “life” of your friend’s wedding –and perhaps are using your long-standing eye problem as an excuse.  It sounds like your friend is trying to be nice and caring.  Special events ahead of the wedding help to build relationships between the participants and build and strengthen bonds of friendship.  If you are already feeling “separate” from the other participants, and uncomfortable sharing your visiting time with her, you might want to consider whether the bridesmaid thing is right for you.  There will be more events just like this in the coming months, and if you are already dreading bridal things, get out now!  I know for me, I wouldn’t want a BM that I sensed was negative and felt like I had to pull teeth to get her involved in things.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

If you’re sick you’re sick, a good friend will understand. I had a bridesmaid’s get together, my sister forgot about it and was not in town on the day. I was mildly miffed but that was it and was over it in a day. Anyone saying that not going is a terrible thing is in my opinion being a bit of a bridezilla. Call her to tell her though and give as much notice as possible.

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