How bad should I feel about this?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
4576 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@anon00:  Guys sometimes are like that and won’t just admit they’re a)jealous b)nervous about you being out without them. If he stays out late all of the time, yet got mad when you did, I think there’s a possibility he was feeling insecure.

Does he answer the phone when he’s out late? He could have been upset you didn’t.

Post # 4
841 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@anon00:   I’m obviously speculating here, but I doubt that he is angry with you for staying out late in general. It’s probably the fact that you told him you wouldn’t be out late and he was counting on you being home for something. I understand why he would be upset about it (in fact I’ve been upset with my SO for the same thing), but honestly he should have gotten over it by now.


Post # 6
2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Guys are so sensitive. They do something, then rush us to forgive. We do something it’s like the apocalypse! If you apologized profusely and you meant it, I just say give it a little time so he can get over himself and don’t let it happen again.

Post # 8
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I totally get why he’s mad, because I flip out at DH (or my friends, or my mom, or ANYBODY) when they don’t answer their phones (I tell DH that he can stay out as late as he wants, he’s an adult, just text me if it’s going later than you originally said so I’m not at home thinking you’ve been raped and murdered and thrown in a ditch because that’s where my mind goes every time).


That said, I also get over it quickly. I yell, he says sorry, you’re right, it’s over. He has every right to be upset, but it’s not THAT big of a deal, he should grow up and get over it quicker.

Post # 9
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

shit happens, he needs to get over it and so do you. 

Post # 10
1148 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Haha, I do the same thing to my husband if he doesn’t answer his phone! It’s completely silly on my part, but I get all of those “worst case scenarios” running through my head if he’s later than he says he’s going to be and doesn’t pick up!

As others said, just give him some time to get over himself. Maybe have a talk with him about the situation, and come up with a solution as to what to do if that were to happen again.

Post # 11
2851 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Ahh he will get over it. I can understand why he was pissed; but it’s certainly not the end of the world.

Post # 12
6455 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would have texted him to let him know I was staying out later. Note that I wouldn’t ask permission but I think it’s courteous to let someone know if plans change. That being said what happened happened and you apologized. I think after that he should let it go.

Post # 13
2173 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

@LilliePad:  +1

@BookishBelle:  +1


I’ll be honest, if I were him, I’d be pissed too.  There are guests coming over and you promised to help clean, and be back soon, and then you stay out later and don’t even let me know you’re alive?  Yep.  That’s a recipe for instant anger for me.

How would you feel in his place?


That said, if there was a legit apology, I’d get over it quickly.  Unless it was something like “I don’t know why you’re mad, you stay out late.”  Um, not the point of my anger.  See above.

Post # 15
5909 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@anon00:  ….I would tell him to shut up about it….good nights out are few and far between, everyone’s entitled to theirs and since he’s had his share, he should be more than happy to Mop n Glo while you tie one on since all’s fair in love and war

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