How bad will mom freak out about a surprise at the ceremony?

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should we go through with the surprise?
    Yes : (33 votes)
    94 %
    No Way : (0 votes)
    Tell her about it first, see what happens : (2 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    42089 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think it would be a fun surprise. If your Mom has a meltdown merely because she wasn’t involved in this one decision, she needs a reaity check. This wedding is about you, not her.

    Post # 4
    2232 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @delovely13:  If you’re excited about it, you should just do it. No one here knows your mom so we can’t tell you how she’ll react. But you should probably give her more credit to hold it together. If she does get upset at the wedding, she will only make herself look immature. If she lets you have it after the wedding, remind yourself and her that she’s upset over *a piper playing music*. Who cares!

    Post # 5
    3570 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Why not just tell her you want it, you are excited about it, and you have arranged everything?

    Post # 6
    2454 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Who has to tell her it’s your dad’s idea? Why not just do it and keep that a secret? And if she still freaks out, say that you wanted to do it as a surprise for everyone since she has been so involved in the planning process. 

    Post # 8
    2657 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’d go through with the surprise.  I think it sounds neat.  This is your wedding and it should respect both of your parents’ wishes.  Most people wouldn’t dare raise a stink about something during a wedding.  Even a momzilla would hold their tongue if it means seeing you happy on your wedding day.

    Post # 9
    1015 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I love the idea of a piper (I would have loved one, and I’m barely Irish, mostly German as well)!  And I agree with the post above.  If YOU want it and you can fit it in your budget, YOU should do it.  I doesn’t matter whose idea it was.  Viel Glück!

    Post # 10
    7207 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It’s your day, if it makes YOU happy that is what take precedence. 

    Post # 11
    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Do it. She can deal with it. 

    Also? I was thinking this would be much worse. I’m expecting a pretty epic meltdown from several family members when they realize that we’re having a very short, secular ceremony with a light pagan sauce.

    Post # 12
    2915 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    It sounds like it will be awesome! She won’t have time to get mad about it on the day, so much will be going on!

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