how becoming a mother changes a woman – article

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

As a FTM to a 5 week old baby, I can say that for me, this is a pretty good description of some of the feelings I have felt. Becoming a mom is life altering in ways that nothing else ever can be. It changes who you are, and it happens in an instant. It’s a pretty incredible experience.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

Since I’m not a mother yet, I guess I won’t know until that day comes.  But I think it is a little harsh to say the person you were is dead.  I think everyone’s experience is probably different, just like every pregnancy is different.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Cory_loves_this_girl:  I’d have to 100% agree with everything you said and everything that was written. Finally someone takes the words out of new others mouths and puts out there for everyone to read. 

I wish more women would talk and share.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

How she describes herself thinking and everything she says… that’s basically EXACTLY how I foresee myself, and I worry that I will never rid myself of those thoughts. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Honesty I’m a mother, and I find this slightly dramatic. Of course I love my son more then anything but come on.. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@nearlymarriedlass:  This cow again? She’s just another run of the mill, garden variety, yawn fest mommy blogger trying to pretend that getting knocked up is an actual achievement. 

Okay, sure, being a mommy is nice if that’s what you want but really, let’s not pretend it’s more than what it is. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Zhabeego:  Wowwwww. For some people, getting “knocked up” IS an achievement.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Zhabeego:  ouch, that is way harsh. Being a mother may not be for everyone, but I would say MAKING A HUMAN is one of the greatest things a woman can accomplish. It definitely means something, and it certainly is deserving of major credit. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Zhabeego:  I think your comment was incredibly harsh. Maybe it’s because I am pregnant and going to be a FTM…I’m not sure. However, for some women getting pregnant or “knocked up” is very much so an achievement. 

My pregnancy wasn’t planned and I feel as if each day is an accomplishment. So when the actual baby comes, I KNOW I will see that as an accomplishment!

Also, I think it takes more than getting pregnant and having a baby to become a mother. So let’s not pretend that it ISNT anything more than what it is. It’s a big deal! 

While I don’t agree with everything the article says, specifically about the dads connection and your old self “dying” …I do believe that even if she is a run of the mill SAHM, she is entitled to her opinion. It doesn’t make her a cow or yawn-fest. I enjoyed the article. 

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

I have worked and been a SAHM.  First,  IMO all  moms are full time mothers.  Second, I can honestly say I never had had a single solitary moment of the kind of fear, regret or angst outlined in this article.  I can’t relate to it at all, although I’m sure there are women who do.  

I was more than ready for this step in my life and have truly loved every minute of being a mom.  It helps to be in a place in your life when you are mature, and have accomplished and experienced a good bit of life, first, which I certainly did. For me though, it  is beyond rewarding that my life is no longer only about me, myself, and I.  

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@Zhabeego:  eh your post was a tad bit harsh but I agree for the most part. HAVING the baby is not the achievement. RAISING the baby to be a good person & an asset to society is the achievement. I have more respect for a mom with 2 kids in college or something than I’ll ever have for a mom with a new born or a toddler. I’ve been around babies/kids my whole life, the infant stage is not that hardest stage. & almost every woman is capable of getting pregnant & pushing out a baby/having a baby cut out of them.

 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am a mom and I find this to be a little dramatic. Just with any major life event, you will never be the same as you were before. The authors use of the word dead is harsh- I prefer transformed.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m not a mother so I can’t comment on that but I was totally put off by the way she talked about other achievements. No, becoming a doctor isn’t something that “just happens.”

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