(Closed) How big is too big for a bridal party?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee

to me anything over six is just really big.  thats just how ive view it though.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

one of my friends had 12 BMs and 12 GMs, there was just no other way to do it for them!  and they do not regret it. i’m only having 4,  but i really do think whatever works for the 2 of you is the way to go :o)

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Those are some pretty big numbers. Is there any real reason why all of them really have to be in the wedding. I mean, really, the way I see it, there isn’t a whole lot of difference besides wearing the BM dress and haven’t to help out more.  I think having 11 BM’s is creating the potential for a lot of stress and possible dramatic situations as well.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

The general rule of thumb is one bridesmaid and groomsman for every 50 guests. Even 6 on each side is alot no matter how big your guestlist is.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yes, it’s really big.

Yes, it’s been done.

Downside? in group photos everyones face becomes really small 🙂

 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We are having 6 and 6.. We do have others we would love to have included but have decided to includ them in other ways so be part of the day at the church and stuff

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We have 7 and 7 but we’re including other close people in various ways, some are going to bring the host and wine up to the alter, others are going to do readings, two are in charge of the aisle runner, etc.

How many guests are you planning on having?

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i was worried about the same thing – we have 125 people and i wanted just 3 BM – my FH wanted (get this…) 9 GM. NINE. i had to talk some sense into him (do you know you have to buy gifts for all of these guys? and just cuz you were in their wedding they dont have to be in yours?) and he whittled it down to 7… and i added 2. so as it stands we have 5 BM and 7 GM. i think its too much but whatever… its our wedding and if folks dont like it oh well LOL.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think you should try to include them in other ways, twelve is pretty big. Readers, EME (if you’re Catholic), gift bringers @ the ceremony, person in charge of programs, person for guestbook, ushers (can definitely be women), personal attendants (help you on the day of, but not a bridesmaid), cake cutters…. there are so many things to do in a wedding, and it would be really stressful day-of, I think, to coordinate 12 BMs!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

And full disclosure – we’re having a small wedding party, just our two best friends and our siblings, making it 3 on each side (including MOH/best man)

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My boyfriend has been talking about 8 groomsmen as well. I could honestly do well with just three bridesmaids (my closest friends) but he says, “we HAVE to have atleast 8 guys!” This makes things hard because the wedding chapel I want is rather small. I know that if I had a large wedding party in a small chapel, things could look rather cramped and not very well-balanced. I’m thinking I might be able to stagger the wedding party on two different stairs, so it won’t look as awkward. We’ll see though….. 

I will say I have been to a wedding in a fairly large church and there were probably about 12 of each! It was a really large wedding party, but they all framed the altar on different steps and it didn’t look bad at all!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@eehilton – i am debating now what to do with the wedding party in our chapel – since its fairly small – capasity is 120 max!!!! heres what it will look like if we have everyone stand up

or im toying with having them seated along the side walls on either side of the altar….

 

 

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Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

… not going to lie, that’s a bit big. I think the old-fashioned rule was 1 bridesmaid/ groomsman combo for every 50 guests. That’s definintely not followed anymore, but it’s alot of people to have to squeeze into one picture, and alot of extra expense. Maybe you could designate a special row for special friends so you can cut the party down? Or buy them corsages?

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