Post # 1
- Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York
And are you inviting them all to your wedding?
Mr. Bee and I both have small families so we had a total of 15 family members between the two of us at our wedding. Some of my friends have like 100 cousins, aunts and uncles and feel like they have to invite them all.
How big is your family? Are you feeling the pressure to invite them all?
Post # 3
Too big! My parents + their siblings + my grandparents = 25 people. That’s not including my cousins! I also have a large extended family. On one side both grandparents have 5 siblings each. Eeek. I’ve decided to not invite the extended family. Edit* It’s a dull night so I just added it up (lol) everyone that I am expected to invite on my side of the family is 89 people.
My FI family is even bigger, probably twice the size of mine. It’s unbelievable… and once we got engaged they all came out of the woodwork! lol I had no clue. Our solution was to have the wedding ceremony in Canada knowing that most of his family wouldn’t travel that far except for the ones he is closest to.
I feel terrible & his parents and my grandparents aren’t super thrilled, but you have to draw the line somewhere. Our vision for our day was small & intimate.. and we’re going to get it! It also helps that we’re paying for our own wedding… 🙂
Post # 4
my family is small less than 10 people and due to family drama its splintered so even if i was to have an aussie wedding half wouldnt be there because of the other half showing up
my FI’s family is big. seven greek sisters married and they all had 3 or 4 kids of their own plus the sisters husbands have siblings too and they all have cousins and then all the spouses and their children…. we’re talking over 100 people within 15 mile radius of us and almost 500 within sydney by the time you add in the 2nd cousin twice removed angle that they all live by. my FI’s cousin got married a while ago and his reception was over 600 people
was feeling the pressure – eloping instead
Post # 5
My family is decently big, but my fiance’s family is huge! Seriously – our combined families on our invitation list is almost 100 people!
Post # 6
And yes, we are inviting all of them. And that doesn’t go beyond first cousins.
Post # 7
My mom is one of six children and I have 30 cousins (more if you include my cousins’ children). FI has a large extended family too but they’re all pretty close so we’re inviting everyone. Both of our families make up about 150 people on our guest list. Crazy!
Post # 8
We’re a pretty big family, and his family is large on his dad’s side but his mom was adopted so they balance out. But as far as sibs go, there are 4 of us total, so just with my family and nieces and nephews, we’re already talking a big group.
Post # 9
I come from a big family (I have 3 siblings and my parents have 4 and 5 sibs) with lots of cousins, etc. FI’s family is smallish-normal size. He jokes that our wedding will be like big fat greek wedding.
Post # 10
Immediate family totals to 12 between us, extended family adds up to about 80. We invited everyone, but only maybe 20 of them showed up do to traveling and economic problems.
Post # 11
FI has a tiny family and I have a huge, huge family. My mom has 5 brothers and my dad has 6 sybs also. So you can imagine how big it can get. Luckily, it’s acceptable and actually preferred in my culture to kind of ask ahead of time if they can make it before sending them an invitation. And, many of them live abroad. That way they don’t feel an obligation to send a gift along for something they can’t attend.
We’re inviting 50 on my side and 7 on his (yes that’s his entire extended family).
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel
I have a huge family. My mom has 3 siblings and my dad 7! We’re inviting everyone, which comes out to about 50 or so. AND my FH’s family is halfway around the world, so you can imagine the sides will be a little "unbalanced."
Post # 13
Hmm, lets just say that my fiances brother had like 600 people that came to his wedding! Most of them were family and his fiances family was very very small.
My family is small. Well actually, I have a big family, but we aren’t close with our extended family b/c everyone lives all over the country.