- Blog
- Bios
- Boards
- Classifieds
- DIY
- Gallery
- Vendor Reviews
- Shop Weddingbee
Weddingbee boards
I think it's fine, so long as your co-worker doesn't get it into her head that she's also invited to the wedding. Just be very clear about it when you invite her for your bachelorette.
I've been invited to bachlorette parties w/o being invited to the wedding so I think its ok. I feel you on the big family, thats why I decided to go the DW route, most won't travel! My last cousins wedding was for 450 people because she did invite a FEW friends!!
I think it is rude. If you are including someone in wedding festivities like a shower or bachelorette they don't necessarily need to be in your bridal party but they at least need to be invited to the wedding.
As long as you say something lighthearted like, you know I can't invite you to the wedding b/c our families are so big it's funny.... but i'd really love it if you could join us for my bachelorette party!
I'm having a destination wedding w/ only 30 people (immediate family + close friends) and had 4 friends at my bachelortte party that aren't invited to the wedding. I don't think they cared one bit.
I'm guess at this point she most likely knows she isn't invited to the wedding, so I think as long as you say "hey I'm bummed I can't invite you to the wedding but i really want you to party it up with me" she'll likely be really touched. I wouldn't worry about it :)
i guess the thing that is throwing me is that i think the only scenario where this is okay is when the wedding is really small- i.e. destination or court house wedding...since yours is a large wedding, i feel like you will have plenty of women to invite to your bachelorette party. but, i could be wrong.
I agree with Allyser. The bachelorette party is to celebrate the upcoming wedding. I would be offended if I were invited to a party to celebrate the upcoming wedding that I'm not invited to. I would post a poll on this one! Looks like very mixed opinions here! :)
Well, I wouldn't really consider asking her, but my bachelorette party is going to be kind of unique; we are doing a murder mystery dinner, and she LOVES that kind of thing. She knows she isn't invited to the wedding (and why); I just thought that since this isn't a gift-giving type of wedding-related party it might be okay?
a murder mystery dinner!!!!!! that sounds like so much fun- i am planning on getting one of these kits and doing it for my bday. are you going this route, too, or are you going to one of those places where they host them?
I would invite her. She knows she's not invited and why, and you're right-- it's not a gift giving occasion, like a bridal shower, AND it's something that she loves? I see no problem with inviting her.
I change my opinion. I think it's perfectly fine to invite her. (Since she already knows ahead of time she's not invited to the wedding) Sounds like fun!!
If you are up front and explain that you'd love for her to come out, but she can't be invited to the wedding, I think it's fine. I think she'd be glad to be able to celebrate with you.
i would invite her, she knows she's not invited and why and if she would really enjoy the party then do it!
i wouldnt invite her.. even if she knows she isnt invited its still a faux pas..
My friend's sister isn't invited to my wedding, but she is invited to the Bachelorette. We aren't super close, but we've known each other for about 10 years now and have hung out together on several occassionas and she is fun to party with.
I say DO IT!
Honestly if she already knows she isn't invited to the wedding I don't see what the problem is. Okay yes, if you are going to go strictly by what etiquette says you shouldn't... but this is exception to the rule I think!!
I think it might depend on what's common in your area / in your group of friends? I've attended lots of bachelorette parties where I wasn't invited to the wedding - usually for friends of friends or friends I'm not super close with. I've invited a few girlfriends to mine who aren't invited to our wedding and I'm just assuming they understand why there's no wedding invite - it's pretty common in our circle and in our area. Plus if she knows that your wedding is family only, I'm sure she'll understand!
You must log in to post.
| Visit our sister sites | eHarmony Online Dating |
eHarmony Advice Dating Advice |
Project Wedding Wedding Songs |
JustMommies Pregnancy Calendar |
Create the honeymoon of your dreams.
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| Lyndzo | 29 |
| beargoose | 21 |
| his chippymunk | 20 |
| Ms. Salamander | 18 |
| LammChop | 17 |
| rebwana | 17 |
| fivemonthsnotice | 17 |
| kat2014 | 15 |
| mypinkshoes | 15 |
| s.renea9 | 15 |
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| j_jaye | 4 |
| GeekChic | 4 |
| maifunez | 4 |
| Lyndzo | 4 |
| HiroshymaTetrastar | 4 |
| JenRoses | 4 |
| pengoala | 3 |
| KristenGotMarried | 3 |
| beargoose | 3 |
| MissPumpkinPie | 3 |
Hi Bees!
So, my wedding is family only due to, well, family size (225 ppl) and the lack of funds/space at the reception hall. My question is, is it okay to invite a co-worker out for my bachelorette party if she isn't invited to the wedding?