How big of a PITA am I? Want to change my ring AGAIN…

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
2134 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

That sapphire halo made me gasp!  And I am not a halo person.  But that is gorgeous!  I also love that last picture- it’s so delicate!  The prongs are really unique too.  I think that’s my favorite one.  

Post # 4
6048 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

What will the band look like that goes with your current setting or the one’s on your pinterest insperations? 

Post # 6
2047 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Woobee:  If you’re not excited about the ring, change it.  I agree the setting is wide for my taste, and I would have went with a smaller setting for the stone.  Love the center stone though.  Something like this would help enhance yor stone instead of compete with it, which I feel your current setting is doing:

Post # 7
432 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I really like the setting it is in now, alot, but that sapphire one is drop dead gorgeous!

One thing, I picked everything about my ring as well, and have felt a bit of what you’re feeling. What helps me is knowing how much my Fiance loves it. I catch him looking at it, he will move my finger to make it sparkle. He is very proud to have given me my ring, even though I found the setting, did the legwork and made the decisions. If you are feeling weird about changing it again, you could always do it later when it would be easier fiancially? Maybe for an anniversary?

Sometimes it is hard to stop ring shopping, and there are always such pretty rings out there. It is hard to not think about them!

Post # 8
5482 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Audrey2_sings:  +1 Sapphire halo! I love asschers and I am not sure your current setting flatters your center stone :-/ If your SO is ok with it, change away!!

Post # 9
2365 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

 Keep in mind this is from the perspective of one who just bought a house and has 95% of school debt paid off – stop wasting money on that setting. Keep the Pinterest page and look at it every few months. If you STILL like one of those settings in a year, save it. If every inspiration pic looked exactly the same, I’d say you know what you want, bite the bullet and change it. But they don’t. Get it reset for your anniversary once you’ve looked at the same pic for a year and you’re 100% sure you’re not going to change your mind again. Otherwise, you’re throwing away money that could be going to something useful long term.

Post # 10
33 posts

I hate to say it but I do think you are being unreasonable. 🙁


FI and I went the exact same route you described above and I cannot imagine telling him I didnt like it. The ring is beautiful. Drop it. Focus on upgrading in 10 years if that’s what you need to do. There are much better things to spend your money on.

Post # 11
1625 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Woobee:  I think you should drop it. You’re not even married yet, right? I’d wait to upgrade on your first anniversary or later. Three settings before you’re even married seems excessive, and this is coming from another self proclaimed PITA who sent her ring back over prong placement. 

Post # 12
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@MariContrary:  +1.. I think this is great advice!  

Take a step back and see how you feel in a little while.  Beautiful stone btw!

Post # 13
2102 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ahh so nice to hear another bee confess to being a PITA about her ring like meee!

I too want to change my ring… I didn’t notice the side stones were not exactly the same until DH proposed with it and now I can’t get over it.

I love him, I love that he loves me… but dayum I want a new ring and I feel so bad that I want a new ring.

If he’s okay with it, totally go get something you love.

I love the last photo you posted. Classic, elegant and would look wonderful with a delicate filigree band.


Post # 14
532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

To be honest, I really think you need to let it go for awhile. Unless you are in the position where the money spent shelling out for a new setting doesn’t make much difference (and it doesn’t sound like that is the case), you need to be realistic. At a certain point, isn’t the grass always greener? I advise you to save your ring inspirations, try to stop looking at rings altogether, and revisit the topic in 5-10 years.

At any rate, I think your current ring is gorgeous.

Post # 15
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Honestly, I prefer both the original and current versions of your rings to most of the ones you pinned. But I’m not a fan of halos. The last one is pretty. But I think the real questions is – you’ve already gone through two settings that you thought you liked and now don’t like – what makes you think that you’ll like and want to stick to this new setting? Because that’s a lot of changing of rings in a short time period. Personally, I’d probably just wear your current setting for awhile and see if it grows on you and, if it doesn’t, change it out one down the line. 

Post # 16
592 posts
Busy bee

Sapphire art deco is amazing! I love asschers. So beautiful. 

The last one is pretty, but the corners are exposed. Diamonds have perfect cleavage across 4 planes, and the corner facets are the most vulnerable/prone to cause damage when exposed. So a good knock to the corners would seriously damage the stone.

If financially(or emotionally for your FI) it would be too much to change settings again then shop around for a good bench jeweler. They might be able to tighten up/fix some of the flaws in the setting to hold you over till money is better. Taking the sides down to just one baguette instead of two would probably help but that would probably cost for another setting anyways. 


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