Post # 1
I’m thinking of throwing an engagement party for us but I’m not too sure how this works. The party would be in December, which means we can’t do anything outdoors (no backyards unfortunately!), but I also don’t have a ton of money to splurge on a restaurant or renting a hall or anything…how do we do this exactly?
I don’t want a party for the gifts or anything, I’d just like to get some friends & family together in one place to celebrate (FI and I are long distance and he’ll be visiting me then, so perfect chance to meet the last few people he’s not met yet!)
We’ve begun saving for our wedding and have a list of about 150-175 people which will cost a lot for us. I can’t spend a fortune on the engagement party but I’d still like to do something to mark the occasion. Do you HAVE to invite everyone who’s being invited to the wedding? Is it weird/rude to keep it to just close family and a few friends? Do people get to bring dates?
I of course would never invite someone who isn’t invited to the wedding, but do all my potential wedding guests need an invite for the engagement party? I want to keep costs down but this seems impossible!
Post # 3
Ours was just close friends and family ao around 50 people.
Post # 4
I think it should just be close friends/family. Ours was around 30-35, and I thought it was the perfect size to mingle/enjoy ourselves (though it was only DH’s side of the family). I would probably invite wedding party + dates & immediate family members + dates. If necessary, I would also invite very close extended family members and close friends who didn’t make the wedding party cut.
Post # 5
@MrsCreeToBe: I previously read on a wedding planning site that when you throw an engagement party you should invite everyone that you are inviting to the wedding, but I agree it’s too costly. I don’t think I’m going to have an engagement party but if I do, I will do something small.
Post # 6
I would invite the people who will be at your rehearsal dinner (bridal party, their dates, close family members).
ETA: It really shouldn’t be a particular size. It can be as large or small as you want. It also doesn’t need to be as formal as your wedding or match (colors/theme) your wedding.
Post # 7
Thanks everyone! I was hoping to keep it to about 25-30 people.
I’m afraid of offending someone by not inviting them :/ I do have a large group of friends that I’ll be inviting to the wedding, but they’re not in my immediate close circle so I wasn’t sure about inviting them to the engagement. I wanted to keep it just parents/grandparents/BMs/GMs/a few work friends, but I’m afraid of causing some unnecessary drama by leaving people out!
Post # 8
My parents hosted one for us with about 40 close friends and family members. They kept it simple and had it at their house with heavy appetizers. I think if you keep it to the group you mentioned above no one should be hurt.
Post # 9
I think close friends and family. I am not sure how e-parties work really. But in fi’s family, they do a serenade for the bride and that is usually around 50 or so people (at least the ones I’ve been at).